So it's been about 3 months since DS weaned himself off the breast (he's now 8 months). We had been mixed feeding pretty much since birth, minus a few weeks because I had a poor supply and nothing I did boosted it.
I spent about $400 seeing a private LC (4 sessions) to try get DS to latch right as I always had pinched nipples and help with boosting supply. Well, what a waste that was!!!!
He has just been diagnosed with a upper lip and tongue tie. Everyone kept telling me I had a bad supply and no one thought to check his mouth... Not even the LC who was charging me $100 an hour. I feel so gutted, upset, disappointed, amongst other things... Something that easily could've fixed was missed for this long.
I don't even know how to feel
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28-06-2013 19:41 #1
28-06-2013 19:47 #2
You did everything you could. Don't blame yourself, because really - how were you to know? Most important thing is a happy and healthy (and fed! Doesn't matter how) baby.
I would be angry at the waste of money, too. But at least you won't have the thoughts of 'if only I had reached out for help someone would have picked it up', as you did and it still didn't work. You tried your best
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28-06-2013 19:48 #3
Massive hugs. That would be devastating
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28-06-2013 21:08 #4
Oh you poor thing it's so hard when those we trust to help us fail to do their jobs or let us down. I can understand you are probably grieving all over again but please try to be gentle on yourself and if you have the strength give that LC a call to tell them what they have missed, for the other babies they will see xo
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28-06-2013 21:28 #5
You have nothing to feel guilty for, you personally went above and beyond to try and help your situation. Well done.
Personally I'd be furious at the LC though. Both my boys have been tongue-tie, it's surprisingly common these days. An experienced LC should have checked for this, especially with pinched nipples. I'm very sorry you were let down.
Your LO still got the crucial colostrum and breast milk for 5mths, be proud of that. I'm sure he's still thriving on formula now too and that's all that matters
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28-06-2013 21:53 #6Senior Member
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You did nothing wrong. In fact you did everything right and should be proud of yourself for getting as far as you did.
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29-06-2013 06:27 #7Senior Member
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Oh hun I am sorry you are feeling that way. You did everything you could to help him. The lc has failed you both.
Not that it is about the money but I would contact the lc and tell them what they missed and ask for a refund.
You managed to make it to 5 months which is an awesome achievement. And as others have said as long as you have a happy healthy boy now, that is all that matters, not where he gets his milk from.
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29-06-2013 07:04 #8
You did a brilliant job to have persevered for so long. With my first DD, she had a tongue tie, could not latch at all. I picked up on it, the MW's at hospital didn't believe me, DD ended up jaundiced and too lethargic to feed. I put her straight on to formula. I had no knowledge when it came to expressing, even when the LC in the hospital told me I was right about the tongue tie (her father was born with the same so MIL warned me about them) they didn't suggest correcting it- in fact she was over a year old by the time it was done (at our insistence as her speech was in danger of being affected).
Sometime the professional really let us down. I've feel guilty about not bf'ing DD1 for years (she is 10 now) even though at the time I did not have the education or support to do anything else, so I do understand the guilt, however irrational
Be kind to yourself. Any BM at all is a benefit to a growing bub and you stuck it out for so long! FWIW my ff DD1 is a healthy, tall, strong, clever kid- so don't beat yourself up. I'm all for breastfeeding but formula isnt the demon it's made out to be either.
29-06-2013 07:05 #9
And I agree with PP's- let the LC know how she failed you- it was very remiss of her to not even check for this.
29-06-2013 08:31 #10
8 months is still quite young, relactation is not unknown of, and bub will still have a sucking reflex, you could try to get him back onto the breast...
Last edited by MilkingMaid; 29-06-2013 at 08:42.
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