mine got made redundant 1 1/2 weeks ago and is lucky he's still alive.
For a start i get up with bub every morning and he sleeps in, his sh!t is everywhere and when I ask him to look after dd so i can work (i work 24hr week from home) then he sits on the lounge and watches tv, rather than engaging with her At All.
Last week I decided to start treating him like a 5 year old and 'banned' the use of the TV except for an hour over lunch. So he went to his mummy and whinged that I was 'on his back' all the time.
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26-06-2013 06:59 #41
26-06-2013 07:56 #42
My DH is messy and absent minded. He will start a task, be sidetracked by something shiny, and end up building a model eco-house instead of mopping the floor.
That said, he is a pretty great dad and a really good cook. I can deal!
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26-06-2013 09:19 #43
I truly hope you can find a workable solution soon xx
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26-06-2013 18:06 #44
Do what I did...book a flight interstate for 24 hours and say you're leaving baby behind?
Do you have a baby monitor? Maybe on the nights you're working you just turn on the monitor in your bedroom, head into the spare room with ear plugs and a book and announce you're going to sleep now. I found things changed a lot when I started saying things by phrasing them 'I'm going to...'. I think I already said that to you.
Can anyone else watch P while you work? If so, I would move him out for a week or so. He needs to know you're serious. I still think he may be depressed. My DH has a depressive illness which explains some of his behaviour towards me currently, but I think boundaries need to be set nonetheless. And you can't keep working in such a state. Once I said to DH 'even if you don't care about me, you should care about yourself, because if I'm so tired I have a breakdown or end up hurting myself YOU'RE the one who will be watching J 24/7!' There were some changes after that...
I hope things are better today, and if not, well, hey, it's not like things will be that much harder if you go it alone. Maybe he needs to realise he's on borrowed time x
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26-06-2013 18:46 #45
Lol after nearly 20 years mine is getting better!!! When I found him his mum was ironing his hankies
ETA I posted after just reading the first page, after reading your later posts I think it is totally unfair to you and he needs to understand the effect it has on you. He needs to make his own breakfast and lunch!! How old is he ?? 6 ??
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