Same as pp,s I had an easy pregnancy and was 39 when I had DS and my Dr said getting pregnant over 35 is the biggest hurdle so congrats on that!
Stop reading - your risk is slightly higher but the best thing to do is stay positive and calm and talk through all your worries with your Dr
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24-06-2013 19:53 #11
25-06-2013 12:30 #12Is it really that bad???
25-06-2013 13:03 #13
I am 38 and pregnant with #2, I had my son at 36, both IVF pregnancies. We had chromosome testing with our last 2 cycles, but only because we had to have genetic testing anyway for Cystic Fibrosis so it was really just another check and balance to get the best embryos we possibly could! Everytime I mentioned something about my age to my Dr/Nurses and whether it was working against me, I was always shot down about still being young and not to worry at all! So i would definitely stop reading. As the others have said the risk factors might be higher than someone in their 20's, but someone in their 20's could still suffer through miscarriages, chromosomal issues etc when they are considered to be in their 'prime', fertility wise.
I didn't choose to wait to have kids, i chose to wait until I found an awesome guy to be the father to my kids, and it just so happened it was a tad later in life. I am still an awesome mum hahahahahahahaha (yeah ok maybe just an ok mum lol)!
Congrats on your pregnancy, enjoy every second because there is much more joy to be had than bad stuff xoxo
25-06-2013 17:56 #14
Thanks so much everyone. Great words of advice!
Gilliebean, that's exactly why I am this age as well. I decided very early on not to compromise and to wait for the perfect man. I feel so fortunate that we found one another when we did. I may be at the older end of the fertility spectrum but at least it's still a possibility :-)
25-06-2013 18:34 #15Member
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I just had my second at 37. Number 1 I was 21. Physically a little harder at my age now and I had high blood pressure and gestational diabetes this time. My OB said I was high risk but agreed that my baby didn't show any ill effects from these complications because each issue was well managed- by him and me too. I have a happy healthy baby girl and I'm in a much better position now financially, socially and mentally and wouldn't change a thing. I'm hoping to have one more much to my ob's frustration, but he didn't say I shouldn't have another. Professionally he had to inform me of the risks again at my age.
Good luck and enjoy
25-06-2013 21:43 #16
I had my 1st at 34 and 2nd at 38, and I'm trying for number 3 now (I'll be 40 next month ) both good pregnancies and births. Definitely STOP reading . Good luck x
26-06-2013 08:03 #17Senior Member
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As a 41yo and pregnant, the main issue I'm finding is that none of my friends have small babies or little children. Our friends mostly have high school aged or upper primary school aged kids. As we don't have family in this city, they are our support network. In many ways I'm less concerned about the physical side effects than the social support aspect
26-06-2013 08:13 #18
I wish I could stop reading things on the net!! Most of it is so depressing!! I just wanted to say, my mum was 39 when she had me, and she's absolutely amazing!!
I never wished she was younger, or felt less than because of her age. I hate hearing 'try to relax' so instead I will say "be gentle with yourself" do your best to be your own cheer leader, and be kind with the words and thoughts you say to yourself xxx
26-06-2013 08:22 #19Senior Member
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I'm having my third and final baby at 42 in two days' time. My previous child is three and perfect, despite getting pregnant at 39. This little girl also seems just fine...although I won't breathe easy until she is born safe and sound.
It is scary. I had three miscarriages between my pregnancy, and the fertility specialist said there was no problem...I was just cooking with eggs nine months older than I am!
Take it a step at a time...visible heartbeat on dating scan...12 weeks and NT scan...morphology. As things come back looking fine you feel a lot more positive. Having made it to the end with (I hope) a vmbeautiful healthy daughter, it is definitely worth it!
Good luck for a healthy baby!
26-06-2013 10:15 #20
My mum had me at 39. I was her 1st pregnancy - my siblings are adopted as mum had fertility issues. She has said that she felt the best she ever had when pregnant with me. She had high bp at the end and was on bed rest but otherwise everything was fine.
I am now nearly 36 and she 75. She's still very youthful and we have a loving, close relationship.
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