Sorry for your loss x.
When my father passed away my besties did not attend the funeral, they had their own things going on and I understand and respect that. Sure it would have been nice to have them there but it wasnt the end of the world. I didn't think they were being rude and I wasn't offended.
They still provide me with a mountain of support and give me a shoulder to cry on to this day, that means more to me than attending the funeral.
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24-06-2013 21:16 #21
24-06-2013 21:17 #22
I think its valid for you to be upset about it. Shes your best friend, its your parent, naturally you would like her support during this difficult time for you. And clearly you'd do the same for her (and have). Any human would understand that.
I find the email to be a bit rude tbh. Couldnt she have called you?
I'm sorry for your loss.
24-06-2013 21:23 #23
I've dealt with a lot of death, and have attend funerals as a sign of respect. But these days, I honestly feel that those affected should be privided the privacy to deal with a death & therefore wouldnt necessarily attend. If I was your BFF, I would certainly make plans to visit you ASAP to show support that way though.
So sorry for your loss, stay strong.
24-06-2013 23:04 #24Member
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25-06-2013 00:18 #25Senior Member
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I think I would attempt to attend the funeral of a close friends parent. Just out of respect . And if I got an email from my BFF saying she couldn't go , yeah I would be really annoyed. How impersonal is an email. Yeah I would be really crabby.
Some people are just selfish.
25-06-2013 04:42 #26
Very sorry for your loss.
Unless I knew my BFF had a good reason, yes I'd be upset and offended. I'd do the same for her and would throw a sickie if I had to for the time off. It's about support and respect for me.
I wouldn't however do it, or expect it back, for just normal/close friends. It's something I'd only genuinely expect from a BFF.
ETA - I'd also be quite annoyed at the impersonal email. A true BFF should at least call about something so serious.
25-06-2013 06:45 #27Junior Member
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What a hard time for you, losing a parent is a huge thing, but I wouldn't be offended or upset.
Just talk to her and tell her how you feel and accept her reasons for not attending whatever they are, don't lose your BFF as well
25-06-2013 07:09 #28Senior Member
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( my BFF was living in USA when my mum died .. She couldn't come .. But i went to her a month later )... Friends are so important at this time .. So sorry about your dad .
25-06-2013 07:14 #29
It wouldn't upset me. As you said she works full-time so likely can't get the time off. You can't take bereavement leave for that and annual leave is so precious and she might not have any anyway.
I am sorry it's upsetting you though at an already very difficult time. I would prob chat to her about it - you will likely find out more details which make it hard for her to come (does she have kids?).
25-06-2013 07:23 #30
I think I would be. I can't imagine what you're going through. sorry for your loss!
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