I don't see how anyone would take advice from someone who advises leaving your baby to cry and if they vomit it's because they're manipulating you...
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21-06-2013 10:46 #21
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It astounds me that people think that babies have the mental capacity to whinge or cry for no reason. I use SOS very loosely, up at 7 & down around 7. My DS would feed every 4 hrs but with my DD it is 2-3 hrs. I have since thrown out my copy of SOS as I realised I was not listening to my DD's needs & I am following her lead. We are a lot happier household for it. It works for some and not for others. If you try it and it doesn't work it's okay but don't stress yourself any your LO over it.
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21-06-2013 11:11 #27Senior Member
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DD was a perfect sleeper at 5 weeks too.
Ahhh those were the days. I was such an awesome parent.
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21-06-2013 11:15 #28
FTM, I can see why you're feeling defensive. The thing is, SOS is extremely polarising, and the people that don't like it (myself included) tend to use extremely strong language about it because it makes us feel extremely strong things! I know you were at a point of desperation when you tried it, and I would never judge you for using it, nor for feeling that it's worked for you. We can all understand the soul-shattering exhaustion that comes with caring for a newborn. I have read her book from cover to cover, and she is very convincing in what she writes. I think that is why it has sold so many copies. The movies with the highest box office return aren't always the best ones!
However, I do agree that your DD's sleep is likely to change, as it has for all of our babies. Sometimes it's great, sometimes it's horrific. My son is going through a terrible 'stage' at the moment. Before that he was almost sleeping through. Whether your DD's good sleeping now is due to self-settling or not, I guess it really doesn't matter. No one can know for absolute sure.
But, OP, the vast majority of literature does suggest that it is best for the baby's wellbeing if you wait until 3-4 months to teach them to self-settle.
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21-06-2013 11:15 #29Senior Member
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OP, I'm a mum of three, two full termers and one 31 weeker and I'd really urge you not to try and implement a TH based routine on your premature baby, especially not at such a young age.
There are many other books that I'd recommend on encouraging good sleep habits. I'd be happy to offer up some names if you're interested.
21-06-2013 11:38 #30
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OP- I'm not a big fan of SOS for prems or any babies myself, but I know someone who has used it very loosely, as a guide, without all the "controlled whinging" or whatever you want to call it, but your LO is very young to try to "self settle". Another poster offered to PM you some other idea- I'd look into those All the best
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