This is a hypothetical. At this point my child is too young to be certain as to her true academic ability. She seems advanced in that area but she's 2 so you can't really tell yet. Both my husband and myself were considered "gifted" him more so than me. Having had the experience of extra classes and being pulled out of class to attend other programs, I am not convinced of othe benefit. My husband chose to attend a regular school with his friends rather than take up a scholarship at a select entry school and he was Dux so obviously went ok.
I am thinking that I just let her be. I am deliberately not having her involved in any organised classes before school. I don't want to take away the fun of learning that she currently possesses. Would it really be that much benefit to her or any child to have the label, the extra work and the pressure that comes with being "gifted"? Have those of you with children like this had positive experiences one way or the other?
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20-06-2013 11:43 #1Senior Member
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Not pursuing testing etc for "gifted child"
20-06-2013 11:59 #2-
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I would let her lead the way. She may be keen to do extra classes and work or she may not. Just go with the flow, things change so fast as they grow
20-06-2013 15:34 #3
May I ask at what age did you know your child is gifted? DD4 is nearly 16months and can speak complete sentences and has been able to for the past few months. If you say 1 2 she will say 3 4. If you tell her to sit down she'll say no mum stand up. Is stuff like this considered gifted? If so do I just let her go about doing her own thing or are there things to help her progress?
20-06-2013 16:04 #4
There is no requirement for testing to let your gifted child get extra stimulation, but it can really help. My ds is gifted but hasn't been formally tested. He is in a private school (only in Prep), but it's a small class size (only 13) and so it's been clear from the start for the teacher that he needs extension work. The challenge is that if you try & ignore the fact that your child is gifted they can be completely unstimulated by their environment and then by school and start to 'act up'. You want your child to be labelled as gifted rather than as a 'trouble maker' if given the choice. Not every child will act up, but many will be very bored and just find school not a fun place to be (that was my experience).
As for stimulus before school (this applies to you too BabyG4) you follow the lead of the child, but this means more complicated stuff than is usual for their age. More complex puzzles, more detailed books (and you ask harder questions such as 'point to the red car, the yellow flower', etc), more complex discussions in general (when you go shopping ask them to point to something with a specific letter on it). It's not a matter of forcing anything, it's a matter of providing the necessarily stimulation. If you don't provide that stimulation they will be hard to manage.
I found 1 - 4 a difficult time for parenting my ds as I was having to constantly re-evaluate his toys and try & find toys/books/puzzles/games to suit him. You don't need to overdo it, but do look around widely for fun, open ended toys/games as that will provide the most options for play. He got an electronics kit for 8+yo's for his Birthday this year (his 6th) and he'd finished the 100 projects in under a week (and he deliberately slowed himself down to make it last that long). The good thing is that the projects taught concepts that he could apply himself and make his own projects and that was great for him. Lego/Duplo/MegaBloks are another great option of open ended play. Wooden train tracks/trains are also good and teach basic maths/physics/etc to toddlers (but their fine motor skills might not be good enough to do it alone so they might need help).
There is no requirement for classes before school. Gifted kids can be a bit lacking in social/emotional development so making sure they have Kinder/Pre-school for the year before school is great, but otherwise I wouldn't specifically bother with set classes. The time to 'learn' intellectual stuff is at school, even if they've learnt a lot at home with you, there's no need to push them into 'formal'/school like learning early.
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20-06-2013 16:20 #5
Thank you so much for all the info mim1 I really appreciate it. Have found it difficult to find and advice/info on trusty google.
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20-06-2013 17:25 #6
I've started another thread about how you can tell your toddler is gifted. Hope it helps.
18-11-2014 22:11 #7Junior Member
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Hi mim1. Your comments hit the nail on its head! My dd is almost 2 year old and im struggling to find toys that interest her. She completed all her 2-3 year old "toys". Im looking at stimulation educational toys for her whenever. She prefers Lego never took on Mega Blocks. Her fine motor skills are impeccable for her age eg fixing train tracks.
Im told i should introduce electronics/ robotics as shes quite keen on the mechanical side of things. She is also obsessed with building complex towers whereas toddlers her age can only stack a couple blocks high. The only thing i can keep her entertained is jig saw puzzles but i find it doesnt develop other skills if she does puzzles all day. I feel guilty when she is bored with "baby toys".
Anyone with experience in where to find suitable games pls help. Tia.
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