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    Default Fine or a no-no?

    DS is turning 9 next month and we told him that he wont be having a big party this year because he had a massive (rather expensive) party last year. We told him he can have 3 friends come over, go to the movies and then have a sleepover...he is fine with this and is looking forward to it.

    What I am thinking though is that on his actual birthday (a weekday but during school holidays) taking him to an indoor play centre....I want to tell people we know with kids that they are more than welcome to come for a play there but will need to pay for their kids entry themselves. Kind of like "we are going to go to xyz on his birthday for a bit of a play so if you want to come down, feel free to". I dont care if nobody turns up, but I figure there might be some parents who wouldnt mind coming along...Im just wondering if this is an ok request?
    I will also say that they dont need to bring him a present as its not an actual party...and DS will be told this aswell so he knows not to expect anything from anyone who happens to turn up.

    So yeah....would you be offended if someone invited you to come for a play but you had to pay for your own kids (including any food/drink they might want while there)? Also, how can I word it so it doesnt sound rude? "Come on down but dont expect me to pay for anything" just doesnt seem to have a nice ring to it

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    Not sure how to word it

    But no I wouldn't find it rude at all in my group of friends I could just say you should come but have to pay for your own kids lol

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    Sounds fine to me!

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    Nope not rude. I'd just word it like:

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    No presents please

    Just put it on the invite along with all the other details.

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    I'd be totally fine with it, but I think you run the risk of some people bringing presents, then people who didn't being like "what?! I was told not to bring a present" which could cause issues, but that's not your fault! But could be a drama IYKWIM?

    But as far as asking people to just go and have a play, that is totally fine, I wouldn't see any issues with that

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    Not rude at all, we get many invitations like that, most of the time its via text or in person, its just a "hey were taking fred to the play centre for a play on his birthday, did you and the kids want to come down too?" Never really expect to be paid for, unless its an invitation which stipulates costs/free entry.

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    I would tell people in person, either when you see them at school or ring them up. No written invitations. And just say what you said here.

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    Sweet, so far so good.
    I planned of just telling people by txt or facebook or when I see them...no actual paper invitations...seems less formal that way haha

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    As long as it is made clear from the start and everyone is aware it is a fend for yourself invite then I think it is fine.

    Don't do what someone did to us and offer to pay for food if we paid our own way in. She reneged and we had to pay for food as well. Which was fine if I had the extra cash on me, which I would have if she didn't make the offer of shouting the kids lunch. So I ended up scrounging around the car for extra cash.

    Maybe don't mention the birthday and just say "hey we were thinking of going to the play centre next week. Did you want to come?" That way they fend for themselves and no one feels awkward about presents. Otherwise it just turns into an informal birthday party and next thing you know you have a birthday cake and lolly bags.

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    Not rude at all we do this with our girls on their birthdays when they don't have a party. Went to wet n wild last year and just told some friends they are welcomed to join us there'll be a BBQ and will meet them at X spot. Surprisingly heaps of ppl turned up.


 

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