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    Default Have I done the right thing?

    So i just had a man come to my door who said the following 'sorry to bother you so late in the evening, but I think my daughter is your neighbour. Do you know if the person who lives in that apartment (points to the door perpendicular to ours) is called ****?' (not the name of our neighbour) I told him I don't really know who lives there, and he started asking what they look like, if it's a couple or just one person, and I said 'look I really honestly don't know who lives there, I'm sure I've seen people but I wouldn't be able to say. I know the man who lives there (point to door next to ours) very well (true) but I don't see the neighbour on that side almost at all.' He was a bit persistent and I ended up saying 'i'm sorry but I'm going to have to go, my husband is asleep and I'm about to go to bed now too' and shut the door. DP is actually out at the movies but I didn't want this guy to know I was alone. I kept the screen door locked the whole time.
    I'm a bit shaken up by it and not sure what to do. Should I tell my neighbour there's some guy asking about her house? I wasn't lying when I said I barely know her. I know her name and we say hello but I almost never see her around. What if it's really her dad? Or if it's just a case of mistaken identity I don't want to freak her out. I'm not sure whether to tell her or leave it? Or even tell the police? Possibly an overreaction but I really don't know.

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    I'd mention it to your neighbour. See what she has to say and go from there.

    But random at this time of night. Are you ok?

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    Are you ok? how scary!!! Sounds super dodgy!

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    I think you did the right thing and you should definitely tell your neighbor.

    My alarm bells are ringing - if this was on the up & up, why would he feel comfortable quizzing you but not knocking directly on your neighbors door? This is making me feel uncomfortable And anxious, I can't imagine how you're feeling you poor thing!

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    I don't want to be alarmist but I'd let the neighbour know that someone was asking about them, snooping around for information. It all seems very odd. My first thought is that the woman could be escaping a DV situation and whoever he was was snooping around. I'd possibly write down everything you can remember from the conversation, let the woman know and if she seems at all concerned go straight to the police and tell them the situation. (She might be reluctant to tell you but you'd have a better idea by her reaction if you told her that someone has been snooping around asking about who lives there.)

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    yes i would definately tell her.

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    You definitely did the right thing How freaky, hope you are ok!

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    I'm ok. A bit jumpy as DP is out and so is the male next door neighbour we know well. I know the guy upstairs is home but he's a bit far away... I might actually grab his phone number off him next time I see him in case something like this happens again, just to have it to feel a bit safer. Argh, our old flat was secure entry I miss that I think I might put a note in her letter box, as I said I really don't see her much.

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    I agree you should definitely tell her. Perhaps don't answer your door at night unless you're expecting someone now? (I don't answer my door at night because we've had a couple dodgy people come to it before).

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    I would definitely tell her. Odd that he would come so late. Hope he has gone and isn't snooping around like going through her mail.


 

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