Good evening! I gave birth to my 10pound son 6 months ago. I was traumatised by the birth for different reasons and also suffered a second degree tear. DH and I have DTD a couple of times but each time It causes me so much pain. I feel as though he is tearing me in half. Now, I just don't want to DTD and poor DH doesn't like hurting me. Being my first born I have no idea if this is normal? If it is how long till it doesn't hurt anymore? Or should I be seeing a doctor?
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07-06-2013 21:13 #1
Pain 'down there' after giving birth
07-06-2013 21:20 #2
That doesn't sound normal hun. I'd go see your Dr. I hard 2nd degree tears too and it was really sore until about maybe 14 weeks post partum. And then in some positions it still felt a bit tender till fairly recently. And now it doesn't hurt, but I can definitely 'feel' where the stitches were sometimes if that makes sense. I don't think it should hurt so much that you can't enjoy it at all.
07-06-2013 21:39 #3-
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Did you use lots of lubricant? Were you um aroused enough if you know what i mean?
07-06-2013 21:44 #4
Are you breast feeding? Sometimes breast feeding can affect your natural lubricant (sorry if that's a bit crass, tried to think of a better way to put it). I had an emergency c/s and I found DTD uncomfortable until recently, I'm breast feeding so need to use plenty of lube.
07-06-2013 21:45 #5Senior Member
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After my first I needed heaps and heaps of lube. I'd had an episiotomy and I was mega scared, I don't think we even tried until four months later. Heaps of lube!
07-06-2013 21:46 #6
I understand how you can 'feel' where the stitches were. It's just not the same down there anymore!!!
07-06-2013 21:49 #7
07-06-2013 21:50 #8Senior Member
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My bub is 4 1/2 months and was only 7lb 9 and I'm terrified! It puts a lot of strain on our relationship :-(
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07-06-2013 21:52 #9
Can I also suggest (and this is probably tmi) trying with you on top, so you can control everything? I still find I have to be um... A bit bossy about how things are done to make sure I'm comfortable
07-06-2013 21:56 #10
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