IMHO, this woman should not be around children. Are you sure this person is a professional as opposed to someone who has just hung up her shingle? As we have an unregulated industry here there are a lot of the latter around who are woefully ill suited to the job. Sounds like you found one of them.and then she got in his face and said "you're being a baby! Are you a baby?! Do we need to get you nappies?!".
In addition to what others have written, if she had been sourced from an agency then I would report the reason for non employment.
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03-06-2013 15:00 #11
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OK, I'm surely going to show my extreme lack of experience with young children here, but, I don’t really get what is so wrong with what she said. To me it just sounds like she was calmly telling him that he wasn’t behaving like a ‘big boy’, and that whining and crying wouldn’t get him what he was after. What would have been a better response from her?
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03-06-2013 15:04 #13
No not okay, that would be it for trial done, see ya later.....simple as that.
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03-06-2013 15:08 #14
Belittling a child is never ok, not for a parent and certainly not for a carer though I use the term 'carer' loosely in this case.
ETA - a better response would have been a caring one ie 'oh mate ,I know you're tired. Can you take a few deep breaths for me? There now, what can I do to help?'
Btw, from the OP I don't think it sounds like she was 'calm' at all.
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03-06-2013 15:15 #16
I don't think it's appropriate at all. I think she made an error in judgement about what is an acceptable way to speak to a child.
Did you let her know that you don't speak that way in your family and why. e.g it's patronising? You might have felt a bit thrown by her comment though which is understandable.
I know this sounds harsh but I think if you don't take her on, you could tell her why. It may be good feedback for her and actually assist her it the future.
03-06-2013 15:44 #17
She would not be getting a call back! Someone that understands children would never say something like that
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In answer to the OP, it's unacceptable and I would have asked her to leave immediately.
03-06-2013 16:03 #19
Nup, I think she really blew the job interview! She'd be better suited working with inanimate objects methinks...
03-06-2013 16:15 #20
Was she playing?
I know it's still not ok but all of my family and some friends do the same to kids when they are crying, its in a joking voice.
As a nanny she shouldn't have done it, but she might have thought it was harmless.
She got a few phrases in so I'm guessing you didn't pull her up on it so therefor she still thinks it's ok to do?
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