I've been seperated from my ex for 18 months now and have just startes a relationship with some one I have known since high school
I was just wondering when you decised to let your kids meet your new partner? I'm thinking it wont happen for a fair while for us yet but everyone keeps asking why he hasn't met my kids yet?? A huge part of my reasoning is that we would both like the relationship to be about us for a little while and also because I want to be sure he is sticking around before I introduce some one new to my two gorgeous boys who have already been through so much at the ages of 4 and 2!! I just don't feel it's the right time yet and neither doss my new partner. I feel like we will know when that right time is for us but I just wanted to know what other people do?
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03-06-2013 00:38 #1
When did your kids meet your new partner?
03-06-2013 06:17 #2
I can't remember exactly but it was pretty early on like a month or something. We just went to the park, so dd(who was 3 at the time), could play and it wasn't so focused on them meeting. Hope that makes sense! I wanted to do it early into the relationship because I needed to know if he accepted her and vice versa so I knew I could continue in the relationship and wasn't wasting time. Everything worked out well
03-06-2013 06:51 #3
We had been together 12 months before he met them. They were 6 & 2.
03-06-2013 08:05 #4
My son who was 3.5 at the time met my partner before we starting a relationship. So he was just a friend of mine at the time. My son was meant to be in bed when he had came over to drop something off and DS wasn't asleep and came running down the stairs asking who was at the door. So that was that. I hadn't planned on DS meeting anyone I was going to be in a relationship for at least a couple of months before introducing them, but that went out the window pretty quick!
03-06-2013 08:52 #5Senior Member
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I introduced mine at my youngest daughters birthday party. I invited him along with four or five other 'friends of mummies, so the focus wasn't just on the girls meeting him. He transitioned into the family from there.
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03-06-2013 09:30 #6
Mine was only a month or so after we started dating. He popped in on his way to work to say hello and met them then. 3 years on they think of him as Dad
They were only 15 months old at the time though.
03-06-2013 09:51 #7Senior Member
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I met my step kids a week into our relationship which was a lot sooner than we expected but we didn't make a huge fuss about who I was.
I think you and your partner have to be comfortable with your relationship before introducing him to the kids and don't worry about what others think. Do what's right for you.
03-06-2013 10:01 #8
I think it was two months after we started seeing each other. I did it in a group situation though so there wasnt any focus on who he was. That was about 1.5years ago now and I've just only started doing things together the three of us since him and I got more serious 4 months ago.
03-06-2013 10:29 #9Senior Member
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about 6 months into the relationship...when i knew it was going somewhere and that I would not be introducing someone who would diappear.
We did it casually too...and then increase things gradually
03-06-2013 10:40 #10
I don't know when is right, but I just introduced her about a month after we were together. He was introduced as "my friend."
We then moved in together quite quickly, even though I knew it wasn't ideal. It was just a matter of the choice being between that, and remaining with drug-taking housemates who were leaving their drugs all over the place.
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