So this happened a few hours ago now. I'm pg and am trying to quit smoking. I've cut down drastically, but it's the last 2-3 I can't seem to drop completely. As I went from a heavy smoker (30 pack easy, per day) to just 2-3 I think I'm doing well. I know some women can stop completely straight away, Im just not one of them for a few reasons.
Anyway, I was at work this afternoon and we work on our own during the day and I'd been busy all day, to the point I was impressed I managed to eat a whole sandwich in one sitting. The person who replaces me at the end of my shift started an hour before I finished and immediately started having a go at me over little things. Whatever, don't really care.
i finally had enough and went out for a smoke, only to be told by my work mate that I shouldn't be smoking. I told him I'd appreciate him not butting his nose into my business. He replied that as my baby can't defend itself, then he'd say what he likes in its defense. So I went outside and called my manager and let her know I'd be leaving early and the reason why. She said its fine. Not a problem, etc. I went back inside to get my things to leave to discover he had stuck the "smoking causes harm to your unborn baby" picture we got from the tobacco company over our computer screen. Because I left early he started having a go at me and carrying on and swearing. I simply left and contactedmy manager about the picture.
Im just so angry. I can't sleep and I don't want to go back to work. I'm lodging a formal harassment complaint about him and I don't really know what the point of the vent is, just wanted to get it out really. I'm lucky my manager is so supportive and as equally as angry at him on my behalf. I think I'm just upset that someone I work with believes they have the right to speak to me in such a way, or bully(?) me at my work place.
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02-06-2013 00:21 #1Senior Member
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Just so angry.
02-06-2013 00:22 #2
That was so out of line! Well done on cutting back, it's not easy, but you're doing a great job!!! He just needs to pull his head out.
02-06-2013 08:12 #3
What an asshat! Good on you for lodging a formal complaint.
02-06-2013 08:14 #4
That's definitely harassment and abuse. Lodge a complaint and take notes with dates and details on everything. It's not bullying yet as it's really only a single incident (maybe 2 if you count both interactions) but it's bullying behaviour and if it continues then it's bullying. Regardless, he has sworn at you and that is verbal abuse.
02-06-2013 08:18 #5
Thats awful hun. Im sure u are aware that smoking isnt good so you dont need to be told.
Completely out of line and its harrasment. I hope he gets dealt with cause thats just not on! So rude.
Well done for cutting it down from 30 to 2-3. At least ur trying! x
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02-06-2013 08:20 #6
What he did at work was extremely inappropriate. I would definitely make a complaint and would be very surprised if he didn't receive a formal warning at least.
02-06-2013 08:55 #7
You are doing an amazing job and he needs to take a good look at himself and his own behaviour before criticising others! Good on you for reporting him!
02-06-2013 08:58 #8-
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Good on you for cutting down!
As for your co-worker, *insert expletives here*!!!!!!!!!!
You did the right thing by reporting him!
02-06-2013 09:04 #9Senior Member
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Whew. Okay. So I lodged the complaint today. Im just nervous as hes kind of unpredictable and can be rather aggressive. Not much I can do about it I guess. Just need to wait and see. Thanks everyone. For a while I was worried I was being a crazy hormonal pregnant lady.
02-06-2013 09:07 #10
Keep us updated. You are protected by law against any adverse action from making a complaint so document everything and advise your boss ASAP if you do.
Of course you won't be advised what action will be taken against the other employee... Often people are disappointed with this but it's a breach of their confidentiality.
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