To be perfectly honest, when I went on maternity leave 6 years ago I was thrilled as it felt like "getting out". However, I realized with horror when I returned after mat leave that having a baby actually tied me to my career rather than freeing me from it. A new career path was no longer just about what I wanted, but also about whether I could afford a drop in income, whether there were any part time opportunities, whether I would be required to travel or do anything inconsistent with being a parent...
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27-05-2013 14:13 #11
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27-05-2013 14:20 #12Senior Member
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Having kids has definitely "slowed down" my career goals. I still have a goal and have put things in place to get there, but I'm happy waiting until both kids are in full time school.
I had the option to move into my dream role this year but it meant working full time with no option of going part time (just the nature of the work) and I know until bub#2 is in school, I only want to work part time after maternity leave.
So I still have an idea of where I want to go career wise, but I'm no longer in a rush to get there. And if it came down to it, I'd pick my kids over work any day of the week. I'd happily stay in a stress-free but lower positioned role, if it meant it was better for my family. Luckily my work is really big on flexible options for working parents though (within reason/if the job permits).
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27-05-2013 14:38 #13
Yes I think if you want children and a family life unfortunately something has to take a back seat. Yes you can work and have a family but if you want a career path that includes promotions etc then you need a partner that will stay home with the kids when they are sick.
I started my career knowing it was child friendly. That was what was advertised at uni when studying and I starting working straight from uni.
My work is extremely family flexible for under school aged children but not so for school aged as getting their holidays off is a nightmare. You need to book in time a year in advance.
So I also have my teaching cert for when my children are in school and I will leave my career aspirations to when they are in high school... I will be 40-42 then.
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27-05-2013 14:42 #14
I worked for 20 years before having DS, then opened our own business 5 years before having him, I worked 7 days a week just about and was dreading taking time off , I rang the office maybe ten times a day in the 2 weeks I had off before giving birth but as soon as I had him I forgot work, the office , I turned into a SAHM willingly ( much to everyone's shock!) and could easily never work again ! The only reason I go in now a few hours a week now is because we do own the business and to help DH but yes for me, my priorities totally changed - I think you won't know for sure how you will feel until the baby comes
27-05-2013 14:56 #15
Whilst I had been working for the health department for years before getting pregnant with ds1 I had only recently changed careers so was still learning and settling in plus my ds had had a work accident and couldn't work so I was the bread winner for the time being anyway. But I soon got into the routine of work and motherhood and decided to stay on full time when dh went back to work. I had 12mths off after having ds2 though but that was a long enough time for me. I was very ready to get back to work, i didnt feel i was using my brain, i needed the mental stimulation but that's just me. I am loving my 4 day week as I have dropped a day for 2yrs which is up in March but I am thinking I will continue doing the 4 days. My kids are very content kids and I seriously feel more appreciated because they aren't with me all day every day. And it's not that I have to work because we don't need the money financially, I actually love my job and feel useful contributing financially, I am ambitious and I have also studied while having the kids, it hasn't stopped me. My earnings mean our childrens future is looked after, we will be able to afford for them to have a good education and go to uni to achieve their dreams or whatever they decide to do. My dh is very hands on in which i am very lucky and I don't believe I should be not be working just because I have kids, we both work and we both look after the kids, we both get up to the kids through the night to attend to them if they are sick etc, we are a good team, 50 50. One child is at school anyway and the other will be in 3yr kindy next year, before long both will be at school and what would I do then if I were a sahm? Be bored sh****** is what!
If you do your study op could you go back to work part time maybe if you decide you don't want full time? At least then you can keep your skills up in case you want full time later on. Then it wouldn't be a waste for you.
27-05-2013 14:57 #16
Having DD had a huge impact on my feelings towards work. For some reason it's now a lot more important to me to do something that feels worthwhile. I went back to work part time when DD was 7mo as being a full time SAHM is not for me, but I have no drive to go further in this career path. I was progressing up the ladder fairly quickly before and it just doesn't appeal anymore.
I have started studying this year (by distance, just 1 subject at a time) and love it, I'm hoping to start a whole new career in a few years time.
27-05-2013 15:01 #17
Yes! I went to Uni and now have qualifications in a non- family friendly field (think weekends, afternoons, and nights). It is very challenging and quite competitive to get into the speciality I want as the hours are much nicer. I'm currently studying an online course to help me with this.
27-05-2013 22:03 #18
I had huge career aspiration before having ds, i wanted to be in a special field and tried very hard to get into a course which prepares me to get into that specialty within short time. I got offer after I gave birth to ds and I had to defer it. This year i withdrewed from the program because I cant see I would be able to juggle that such an intensive course, child and family. All I want now is to do a course which is less stressful and which can give me a job after finishing it.
27-05-2013 22:18 #19
I had a successful career in Sales and Marketing before I had kids. Once I had my kids it was no longer practical.
I've reapplied the skills I had into something more family friendly.
27-05-2013 22:43 #20
I worked on retail and customer service for years and a bit of hospitality. Currently I work part time in a public library which is about 15 minutes from home, which I love.
Having kids has really influenced my career goal. I'm about to commence part time study in Web Media and Marketing and further down the track work from home.
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