yes as I know that there is a extremely high chance that he will be experimenting with alcohol by that age anyway with or without my permission.
I will not be encouraging him to drink alcohol but if he expresses an interest and has demonstrated maturity to me then I will allow the odd drink here and there.
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18-05-2013 03:57 #33Senior Member
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I would allow it.
I was raised in a very anti alcohol family but from 15 ish I was allowed the odd bourbon and coke half nip (measured for me) or the odd west coast cooler and lemonade at dinner. Maybe once every month or so. Nothing major.
I went to parties, my mum would buy me a 4 pack of vodka cruisers and give me 2!
I never hit the 18 and get wild and crazy stage.. I'm now 24 pregnant and married and can count on one hand the times I've been seriously drunk. I believe the non crazy alcohol is forbidden crap from my parents helped.
I also feel that cause my parents supplied it for me... I never needed to go searching for it in the wrong places to show how 'cool' I was amongst friends.
They forbidded me to smoke.. I smoked for 5yrs. Classic rebellion
For the record, I'm now a security guard and my parents are police officers lol.. Certainly a law abiding family
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18-05-2013 06:02 #34
At 16 I would probably allow the occasional drink.
If they are old enough to drive with supervision I think they can be responsible enough to have have a drink at home every now and then.
I was allowed a drink of Bailey's with milk every now and then at home.
My sister used to be out drinking at 14 and Mum was none the wiser.
I wasn't supposed to drink at parties or without her supervision but went out and did it anyway!
I'm now 24 and haven't been out drinking in 2 years and in fact have no interest in alcohol anymore.
18-05-2013 06:16 #35
18-05-2013 11:35 #36
The only reason I see a 16-year-old drinking wine is because it's free booze that they're being given permission to drink. I doubt there are many 16-year-old Australian kids that enjoy the taste.
I also highly doubt it means they're not going to go get p*ssed next weekend. Having a wine with dinner with Mum and Dad doesn't prevent that. It doesn't make the kid go, "Oh, so drinking wine is nice and civilised... I don't need to go get drunk with my friends after all."
I think they were saying on CoW that studies have been done that say that kids who start with Mum and Dad are actually more likely to have drinking problems as adults. Even just anecdotally in my family... Dad offered us wine as kids with dinner. I turned it down. My brother didn't. Guess who will easily go through a bottle of vodka for EACH weekend night? Yeah, it's not me.
I dunno, if I was at a wedding and my kid was someone I viewed to be reasonable, I would maybe say, "Sure, have half a glass during toasting." But beyond that, nope, sorry, if you want to go and get drunk, then you have to work for it and be sneaky about it. Being sneaky is hard work, especially when you're throwing your guts up the next morning and all you can manage to say is, "Oh, must have been bad party food..." (yes, that was me at age 17) to your mother who surely knows better than to believe that nonsense.
I'm not making it easy for her.
18-05-2013 13:26 #37
We don't drink and we don't have alcohol in the house (apart from the random wine we keep winning in raffles and don't know what to do with) so our children will not grow up with alcohol being a major part of life. Hopefully our children will have the same view as us, that you don't need alcohol to enjoy yourself. I will be teaching them about the law and that it is illegal to drink before 18.
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18-05-2013 13:47 #38
I understand that some cultures handle alcohol responsibly. This one doesn't. While my dad was a drunk my mum hated it with a passion and this is something that was reinforced in us all: that alcohol is bad and serves no purpose. Thing is, I don't drink and yet all of my siblings have alcohol issues.
So, dunno about it all but while my son is a minor and I am his guardian he won't be drinking under my roof.
18-05-2013 21:31 #39
Quite honestly, knowing I could go home and ask mum or dad for a glass of wine for eg kinda took the thrill out of it and they also educated us about what it does, when it is acceptable to drink and all other aspects.
Funnily enough, my mother developed a drinking problem after she kicked my dad out but she also had other addictions as well.
18-05-2013 21:45 #40
I grew up in a family where alcohol was drunk modestly, and only in social situations. We were allowed a small glass of wine with mineral water, or half a west coast cooler, or a sip of beer from around 16. Only small amounts, and only at big occasions, family 21st for example.
I did go through a wild phase. I don't think anything would have stopped me. I chose to rebel. I don't think my parents allowing me the occasional thimble of wine had anything to do with it though, I was naturally rebellious and stubborn.
I would not have a problem with my kids having the odd taste of alcohol at around 16. If they are rebels, they will probably do it behind my back too.
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