Maybe organise something exciting to do with your partner...something you haven't done before or haven't done for a long time (DH and I went tenpin bowling a couple of times at the start of the year...i hadn't been since i was a kid). It can be so hard when your focused on ttc for so long that it can consume your life.
I understand exactly what you mean about feeling cheated/loss of innocence even though it hasn't taken us as long. Especially when you want to have kids young and it feels like its never going to happen.
Can you come up with some sort of long term financial goal whereby you might be able to afford to go private? I know its not ideal but might help you feel more in control and that one day you'll be able to get a bfp even if its later than you wanted?
Fx you don't need it though.
Sent from my GT-I9305 using The Bub Hub mobile app
+ Reply to Thread
Results 181 to 190 of 255
08-06-2013 09:55 #181
08-06-2013 09:58 #182
Starflame - gynos as opposed to FS tend to do unmonitored cycles, so you don't see them much. I had the initial consult where he ordered all the tests. I went back in a month, where he prescribed clomid will lots of repeats and said see you in 3 months. You will get medicare back. I know it's still a cost, but you won't need to see them a lot. I would ring around to the private obs and ask if they would bulk bill for HCC. It can't hurt?
I want to give you a big hug. I swing wildly between hope and feelings of utter hopelessness and defeat. So I get it.
08-06-2013 22:32 #183
I don't have a hcc anymore. I get no government assistance cos df earns too much and we live solely on his income. To be honest I think I'm done.
I don't want to do this anymore. I'm really starting to believe that I'm just not meant to be a parent. Df and I spoke about it and we aren't willing to pay ridiculous amounts of money for a baby so I guess we will just live childless.
09-06-2013 21:19 #184
Hey starflame pls don't let it get you down so much. I honestly understand how your feeling and why you think your done. But you will always feel that something is missing if you don't keep on trying. Try without trying...like just go with flow. Do u know if you ovulate? You know I have a friend who did fsh 5 yesrs ago.. worked first go. She went back to do it after 3 years...nearly 2 years later using same method it hasn't worked!! She isn't giving up just yet... Her husband wants another one. And as for cost. ... my husband and I won't be doing ivf either. If I ever get to a weight where I'll be given treatment ill do either clomid ir fsh... the public system here in melb for an appt isn't long.
So pls don't give up your dream of being a parent. I've decided even if I'm 40 ill keep trying! !!
09-06-2013 21:22 #185
Hey guys does vitex cause mid cycle spotting??? Cause its cd13 and I'm getting some light bleeding...like when I wipe...more than spotting. .. but not bright. .. more like it's been diluted... I've got an appt with the gynae clinic in 2 wks and unless they can give me a satisfactory answer I'm going to insist on tests. ..I'm scared it could be something more serious.
09-06-2013 21:30 #186
The Following User Says Thank You to Mamasupial For This Useful Post:
09-06-2013 21:34 #187
Mid cycle bleeding is normally just a simple hormone imbalance proudmumma. AS I said earlier, I never got it when I took vitex. Do you normally have a weird cycle? i.e. do you need a hormone balancer? bc it seems this is a common complaint for women who can't get pg but still have nice normal cycles.
starflame - All I can say hun is I feel everything you have said every month when I know I'm out. I can just feel the anguish in your posts, and I know that anguish too.
All I can suggest is don't make the decision now. Make it from an unemotional place. Please PM me anytime you need, even just to whinge how everything sucks
The Following User Says Thank You to delirium For This Useful Post:
09-06-2013 22:17 #188
Yep I do derilium. Am hoping I get some consistency this time. Cause if it's another 30ish day cycle I can expect spotting to start again soon then af 1 wk later. Am sick of all the on/off bleeding
09-06-2013 22:32 #189
Have you had tests? sorry if you've already said, but there are so many stories it gets difficult to remember. If you haven't I suggest bloods to look at your hormones as I suspect since you getting break thru bleeding a lot there is an imbalance there.
09-06-2013 22:55 #190
Yep I've had all the tests get them done about 2x a year. I know I've got an imbalance...but last few months its happened ALOT. I don't know if af us starting or not...yet I'm getting it more regularly.
By onlyjuststarting in forum Conception & Fertility General ChatReplies: 3Last Post: 07-11-2012, 21:45
By armywifey90 in forum Conception & Fertility General ChatReplies: 0Last Post: 15-10-2012, 16:35
By jagamoe in forum Conception & Fertility General ChatReplies: 2Last Post: 30-06-2012, 09:52
Hunter Women's Health CentreHunter Women’s Health Centre care for women of all ages, in the full spectrum of their gynaecologic and obstetric ...
LATESTWhy it is OK for your child to be differentWhat is a blessing way? How is it different to a baby shower?7 ways to break the ‘mumnotony’ at home
POPULARWhen can I start giving chores to my children?New baby nursery checklist – a guide to newborn essentialsWhat to pack for labour and hospital – a checklist
FORUMS - chatting now ...
Lite & Easy ???Second Trimester Chat
A - Z of baby girl namesGames & fun stuff
Happiness thread.General Chat
A - Z of Baby Boy NamesGames & fun stuff
The Not So Serious Vent Thread #7General Chat
What do you think is the best resource for new Mums?General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
IVF babies due March/April/May 2017#2pregnancy and babies through IVF
For those of you with babies and toddlers....General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat