So I have been pretty excited so far TTC#1 even though I know it won't be a simple/easy process. I was talking to my best friend tonight and she said she didn't think I should be trying for a baby. She disagreed with my choice because I'm not married, I haven't been with my partner for over 2 years, we want to move house in a few months, and apparently I would be wasting my youth and wouldn't be able to enjoy everything life has to offer if I fall pregnant at 23!
I feel really really irritated that my best friend of over 7 years can't support the most exciting decision my partner and I have ever made.
Has anyone else ever felt completely unsupported by their friends? Is anyone TTC and have their family/friends not agree with their decision to start a family?
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10-05-2013 20:48 #1
TTC#1 and NOT married...
10-05-2013 21:01 #2
I had my first child last year a month after turning 23, and we started TTC when we had only been together two years, and now we are getting married in 8 weeks!... I don't regret one single thing!
When it's right, it's right
I think sometimes its not something that a friend would want to do themselves so its hard for them to be positive about it, don't take it to heart, you can still be friends even if your ideas of when the right time to have a baby differ from hers
Good luck TTC!
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10-05-2013 21:21 #3
Thanks for your insight Apple! Congratulations on your little girl and your engagement. I'm glad everything worked out for you. You are probably right that her ideas about babies differ from me. I guess it's just hard to hear from her. I feel like I have noone to share the exciting stuff with. I have my DP but it's not the same.
10-05-2013 21:25 #4
Lol dp and i had been together less than i year when i fell pregnant with ds2. In fact i was still married to my ex when ds2 was born! If any of my friends or fam had of said anything, which no one did, i would have told them where to go! Hold your head up high op, its ur life
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10-05-2013 21:29 #5
I was 22 when DF and I started TTC and we hadnt even been together a whole year when we started so I say tish tosh to other people and their judgy nonsense! Do what makes you happy, youre the only one who can say what that is after all!! Good luck with your journey!
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10-05-2013 21:32 #6
We decided to not tell anyone we were TTC until it happened, and they'd have no choice but to get over it and deal with it!
DF and I weren't married at the time (engaged though), I was 18 and he was 21... Not ideal circumstances for everyone but it's what we wanted so we didn't care whether people liked it or not. The people that mattered most supported us when they found out I was pregnant and everyone is so great with DS
It's your life, do whatever you want with it!! Enjoy TTC
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10-05-2013 21:35 #7
I was 24 when we started ttc and we were not, still aren't married. We also planned to move before the birth, and not down the road but interstate. We had been together 3 years. Lots of people were quite negative, my own mother asked if I was sure if I was really ready for my much wanted and planned baby.
We have now been together 6 years, have a 2 year old and another on the way, have moved states 3 times, houses more times than I can count and are happier and more stable than many married couples I know. If I do say so myself.
My point is, traditional is great, and it works for a lot of people, but it's not the only option. If you truly love each other and feel ready to bring a little person into the world, great! Go with that! People will always judge you no matter what, but be true to yourselves and your beliefs and you will know what is best to do. . X
10-05-2013 21:48 #8
10-05-2013 22:17 #9
Dh and I had been together 6 months when we decided to ttc, we only got married in dec and have been ttc 21 months.
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10-05-2013 22:23 #10
Thanks ladies nice to know that not everyone thinks i'm being "Irresponsible".
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