unplanned and lost my job

[VicPark]

Have you talked to your hubby? What does your head tell you? And your heart?

[Meccamega]

My fiancé wants to keep and will support me. I wanted to know more practical/ how it would actually work out though. I keep going back and forth with my decision. I only know one relative with kids my age. I read some online stories about abortion and just cried my eyes out.

[Mokeybear]

Relax

Take a deep breath.

You are so young that you can have your baby and still develop your career, you are so far along now it does seem like having the baby is inevitable.

Can you call centrelink to see what you are entitled to?

I was in a similar position at age 41, didn't want the baby but found it so hard to abort, I saw a councillor who helped me put my thoughts in order as nobody can advise you what to do in this situation.

I spent the rest of the pregnancy quite disconnected and embarrassed ( hate thinking back at that now) but the moment she was born I was and remain so in love with her, and I have made it work.

Just wanted to give you some hope that what seems truly the end of the world now may not end up being that way.

Sending hugs to you, it's a very alone place to be, feel free to PM me xxxx

[Meccamega]

I've spent the last month or so agonizing over what to do and it hasn't become clear. I thought getting a termination would be easier than this. It looks like it's too late to have options. I'm so scared, this is the scariest thing I've done.

[JR03]

Hugs! I know it seems completely overwhelming. I had many moments like that during my pregnancy, even though my pregnancy was planned!

There are so many services that can provide counseling and education to make your pregnancy and parenting easier. I suggest contacting your local area health service and ask what they provide.

If it is now too far to consider termination, don't forget that adoption is an option as well. I don't know anything about adoption but I'm sure if that's something you want to look into, there are plenty of ladies on bub Hub who can answer your questions.

Wishing you all the very best!!!