The bonding comments baffle me, too. I was formula fed from within the first 6 weeks and I have a great relationship with my mum. I'd put all the money in the world on it being because she provided a loving and nurturing environment, always made sure I was fed whatever was required at a particular age, and would give many cuddles. All the BFing in the world can't replace the work that goes into to actually raising a child in a stable and loving home, or make up for not providing said home.
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05-05-2013 09:10 #31Senior Member
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05-05-2013 09:35 #32
I'm another mum that all 3 of my kids have been ff. I tried to bf but it wasn't for me and my babies.
I see it this way if formula was so bad for babies it wouldn't be on the shelf at the supermarket or pharmacy.
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05-05-2013 09:44 #33
Since this was posted in the general parenting section, it is actually free for anyone to post their point of view in. There are no special rules in this section, protecting threads like this from an opposing POV.
However, since many of the contributors have voiced that they would like it to be a thread purely for those happy with their FFing, it will now be moved to the FF section.
Please keep in mind when starting new threads which section would be an ideal place to start it in, as it can have a huge impact on what is actually able to be posted.
ETA: Opposing views in this thread have now been removed to fit in with the 'Celebrate Bottlefeeding' section of the forum
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05-05-2013 09:47 #34
I bf for 3 months and was in agony most of the time. I hated it most of the time. Lac consultants couldnt work out what was wrong as they said she was latching properly. I think it was just my nipples (too small) and huge boobies. She just couldnt get a proper latch.
I switched to ff after that 3 months and i beat myself up over it, cried and cried it was awful.
Never again will i do that to myself or my bubs.
If it doesnt work out next time round ill switch over to formula guilt free
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05-05-2013 09:48 #35
I formula fed my first two and never once did I feel judged and like there was pressure on me to breast feed.
I loved formula feeding my elder two sons and loved seeing others feed them also.
It was great bonding for all the grand parents , great grandparents, aunts and of course for Daddy.
I never questioned my choice to turn to formula and never felt like I was being questioned by others.
I breast fed my youngest son and formula feeding just doesn't compare to breast feeding for me. I could have nursed him for years but he self weaned pretty much at 11 months.
Does the fact that I don't think formula feeding compares to breast feeding mean that now I think I made the wrong choice for my FF sons? Uh no otherwise I would be an awful mum wouldn't I ?
I find some of the comments in here more of a 'make me feel good statement' because maybe you personally don't feel so good about it.
If your the mum and your a good one and you chose to FF your baby then why get worked up about pro breast feeding campaigns and all the things that come with breast feeding?
Yes there are some breast feeding weirdos out there but I personally haven't come across any in real life nor on bubhub and if I had I would of ignored it because clearly they are passionate and one sided so what's the point in a discussion with someone like that.
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05-05-2013 09:59 #36
So I am really, VERY sorry to anyone who's post didn't make it through the cull.
The decision in modland was that since the thread has now been moved to the Celebrate Bottlefeeding section, the thread now should purely be for those whose posts do celebrate bottlefeeding.
If you would like to continue the tangent discussion elsewhere, might I suggest the Discuss It section of the forum.
Again, apologies to anyone whose posts were deleted.
05-05-2013 10:05 #37Senior Member
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This is a lovely thread. I had a great experience formula feeding DD. And bonding wise, I preferred it to BF. No issues, happy DD, and I could gaze into her eyes the whole time.
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05-05-2013 11:57 #38
I remember feeling like such a failure, I couldnt "do" something that my body was "meant" to be able to do. That added with being the only mum in my mums group who formula fed... lots of guilt.
It was an absolute turning point for me though. Yes, I plan to BF with bubs #2, but Ill have no hesitation switching to formula if it doesnt work again. No way am I going in to it as one-sided as I did last time!! Formula gave me my sanity back.
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05-05-2013 12:17 #39
I had 12 midwives and lactation consultants try to help DD BF without success and switched to full time pumping for 10 weeks before introducing formula. DD thrived on formula but I felt very judged and guilty, particularly when I kept being bombarded with the message that I was harming her intelligence, immune system and our bond.
I can safely say it has done no harm at all. She is so clever every child care teacher has told me (separately) that she must have "been here before"... and she hasn't had a sick day in 2 years. So much for those theories.
I was formula fed from 6 weeks and my DH was formula fed from birth as he was adopted. We turned out healthy and successful too. It's not my first choice to FF but it should be considered a guilt-free alternative and a godsend if you need it.
05-05-2013 12:22 #40
BFing was so horrible and painful for me that I didn't even feel guilty about FFing as I was so happy to be pain free, and to not dread my baby waking as I was so terrified of feeding. Which of course made me feel guilty!!
I loved other people doing feeds, especially at night! And I can't think of anything worse (for me) then me being the only one to provide my baby with what they need.
As for comforting a baby... Honestly, there are so many other ways to do this than popping them on a boob. Just because others don't know them doesn't mean they don't exist. I've never found it hard to soothe or settle DS, and my DH can do it just as easily as me which is even better!
As or bonding... See my first paragraph! Zero bonding happened until I stopped BFing.
Oh, did I mention.... I loved being as to drink WINE!! And I don't mean just a glass a night lol
I love FFing and am glad there is a place to celebrate it!!
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