This is my second post regarding comments by others regarding my c section. I am working through my issues around the fact my birth was not quite what I had planned throughout my pregnancy and now my focus is just my beautiful bub.
I haven't dwelled on this one because frankly I am too busy but i thought this was an odd conversation as part of a presentation at my first mothers' group.
MCHN - hands up if you had a c section.
2 hands out of 10 go up.
MCHN- oh only 2, well that is so great because we know the c section rates can be much higher.
I thought that comment was odd. Or maybe it's just me!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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01-05-2013 12:15 #1
is this insensitive - comment from MCHN
01-05-2013 12:22 #2Senior Member
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no, just factual.
C section rates are increasing...and it was just an observation.
In my mothers group, i was the only one out of 8 that had had a natural birth!
01-05-2013 12:26 #3Senior Member
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01-05-2013 12:32 #4
I wouldn't worry. C-sections are going up because there is more technology to show complications. I had an emergency Caesar and if I didn't I would have died. Im so greatful in the advances in medicine. There may be a rise in Caesars but there is a decrease in deaths at birth. Anyone who judges you has no understanding of everything you go through. A friend judged my process because I didn't have skin to skin right away, she had no idea how lucky I was to hold my baby in my arms. I wouldn't change it for anything.
01-05-2013 12:33 #5
Not rude to me.
01-05-2013 12:41 #6
01-05-2013 12:42 #7
But to say "great"? I think that's out of line. It's not always by choice, I had a C-section not by choice and the guilt after that I couldn't deliver my baby naturally was intense. Try not to let it get to you - although that's easier said than done.
01-05-2013 12:46 #8
I think her implication was rude, insensitive and unprofessional.
01-05-2013 12:47 #9-
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Whilst great wouldn't have been my first choice of words, I don't think she meant its "great" that 8 women "chose" a vaginal birth, but more that it's great that for this group there was a 20% Caesar rate (for whatever reasons) which is less than the national rate. More a comment on society, but definitely not a comment on individuals.
im pretty bad at explaining myself......
edit: to try and help myself lol, I work on a busy birth suite. I would describe a shift where there is no emergency Caesar as "that's great, no one needed a Caesar". It's not a reflection on the individual women currently in birth suite, just a thank you birth suite gods for keeping it normal for the last 8 hours. The same way you'd say it's "great" that hasn't rained for a week!
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01-05-2013 13:27 #10
While I'm sure she didn't intend it, using the word "great" implies that a higher number would have been disappointing, hence that caesarean births are inferior in some way.
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