Dh and I usually give $100 for a wishing well. This seems to be a standard amount amongst people in our town and what we received at our wedding, although the most important thing is to give what you can afford! I'm sure the bride and groom wouldn't want you/your family to go without at the expense of their wedding gift! Weddings and engagements can get a bit over the too with costs sometimes (accomodation, travel, gifts, outfits etc) no one should put themselves under financial stress to share someone's wedding imho
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25-04-2013 20:25 #21Senior Member
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25-04-2013 20:30 #22
I hate wishing wells and refuse point blank to give to one.
I have been to a wedding that on the invite they asked that you pay for your own meal instead of a gift.
It was around $40 a head. I more than happy to pay for that as it was the only way they could afford to get married.
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25-04-2013 20:32 #23
I have just realised that I am a tightarse! Even with close friends/family I have never given a gift more than $100 and normally more like $80. I really hate wishing wells and gift registers are only marginally better. The bridge and groom are putting on a party, not a profit making event.
I would give whatever you are comfortable with, if you are judged on that - perhaps they aren't real friends.
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25-04-2013 20:37 #24
Give what you can afford. When I was a bride I would rather people come and share our day. It is not about the money or presents.
I give more now than I used to, for two reasons. 1. I can afford more then what I could when I was younger and I go to less weddings per year ( one year I went to 13 weddings!) . 2. My friends who are getting married now have been so generous over the years to me and my kids that I love the opportunity to give something to them. They have already given me a wedding present, baby shower present and gifts when my boys were born not to mention birthdays!
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25-04-2013 20:53 #25
At my wedding the average given was about 50 per head. Some more and some less. I recently went to a wedding that I needed to travel to and gave 60 for just me.
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25-04-2013 21:01 #26Senior Member
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We go to a lot of weddings (2 this wee infact!). A lot of them I personally don't know the people that well, or have never met them. The other week I opened an invite and has to double check the address on the front was correct, I'd never heard of the people! Normally they are work/sport friends of dh or people who are distantly related or conntcted to his family somehow.
So to these weddings $100 is what we give. Close friends get $200.
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25-04-2013 21:09 #27
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25-04-2013 21:15 #28
I flippin hate wishing wells. Why don't they just put their bsb and account details in the invite, then you can transfer it online without the silly cutesy poem and the tacky wishing well or bird cage and you don't have to remember to go to the ATM.
25-04-2013 21:33 #29
$200!!!!! That is insane. I would give 20c and a kick up the bum, as my uncle would say.
Seriously, if you don't want or need presents, just say no presents. I think asking for money is unbelievably tacky.
The last 3 weddings I have been to, two were strictly no presents, one was for my cousin and she was actually setting up house in another state with her husband, so they asked people not to bring physical gifts as they didn't want to take them back to the GC. So some people gave money, some gift cards, some got things sent up to the GC and some gave nothing. I don't think my cousin cared.
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25-04-2013 21:55 #30
Recent wedding for DP's work colleague we gave $200.
But for close friends or cousins we would give around $300 to $400.
For my sister's wedding though we gave significantly more than that. At the time though we were both working and had no kids (was pregnant with DS).
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