I woudln't say anythign to them but yes I would judge them.
I am quite anti-smoking altogether though. I resent walking past a smoker and having my fresh air poisoned by them. I especially feel this way when pregnant. I don't understand smoking as a non pregnant person let alone a pregnant one.
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24-04-2013 08:45 #61Senior Member
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24-04-2013 08:46 #62
24-04-2013 08:59 #63
The thing I don't understand is why pregnant women continue to smoke in public and allow the opportunity for judging (be it right or wrong).
If they claim to feel so bad and guilty, aware of the damage to their baby etc etc then why not at least keep it to the privacy of your own home?? Hide away and be ashamed if you truly are!
Of course some women have no issue with continuing to smoke, which is their decision to make, so can do so anywhere. But I really don't get why you would smoke in public if you truly feel bad about your choices.
24-04-2013 09:01 #64
Also, you never know someone's circumstances. I know one woman who smoked a lot to help cope with coming off heroin, for example (not pregnant at the time) . For all I know the pregnant smoker is having a few smokes a day to curb the craving for something worse. For all I know she's gone from 100 a day, to 4 a day, and I'm seeing one of those 4. For all I know she is going through some major stress, or it's the first one and only one in 6 months. For all I know her dr told her not to stop abruptly and she is weaning down. Even if she just doesn't quit during pregnancy, it's her body and she's breaking no laws. Women make their own risk assessments during pregnancy with what they put into their bodies, be it junk food, soft serve and soft cheese, alcohol, drugs or cigarettes. You'd have to live under a rock to not know the risks so I can't say I feel the need to tell anyone.
24-04-2013 09:03 #65
24-04-2013 09:08 #66
Yep I sure do judge. Would never say anything though
24-04-2013 09:09 #67
24-04-2013 09:10 #68
Nope I don't, and that isn't because I used to be a smoker and I smoked 1 smoke a day when pregnant with my first 2 (which I do feel incredibly guilty for) I don't judge because A) I don't have the right to judge anyone. And B) Just because someone smokes doesn't make them a bad parent.
24-04-2013 09:11 #69Senior Member
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24-04-2013 09:12 #70
H3ll yes I judge! Silently of course.
When I was about 18, one of my friends' sisters was pregnant. We were out at a nightclub and she'd run out of cigarettes. She asked me to bum a smoke, (I smoked back then, thought I was cool), and I refused. I just couldn't be a part of it, I couldn't stop her from smoking, but I refused to enable her by supplying her with cigarettes. She was also probably 7 or 8 months, and this was about 3 am, and I think she'd been drinking, so this situation was wrong on lots of levels.
It makes me so sad, it's one thing to smoke if you're just harming yourself, but another entirely if you're growing a human being who can't decide for themselves. So, I judge, silently.
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