I judge dont say anything but definatly judge.
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24-04-2013 17:19 #123
I'm not a smoker and never have been... but I have suffered addiction before, and while I preferred to keep my addiction to myself, there were plenty of times that my addiction would take over when I was in public.
I think the "why do it in public if you're *so* ashamed?" argument is a bit odd... fat people might be ashamed of their bodies, should they remain at home in case someone catches a glimpse of their fat?
24-04-2013 17:50 #124Senior Member
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Yes I do, but I'd never say anything, or at least I'd never say anything to a stranger.
A good friend of mine smoked during her pregnancies. I never said anything.
One day after her kids were born I went to her house to visit. She told me to take my shoes off before entering the house as she didn't want my shoes to bring in germs on the floor where the kids were crawling.
I took my shoes off and then told her how asking me to take my shoes of was a bit hypocritical considering she passed on all sorts of toxins to her kids by smoking when pregnant.
She (in jest) called me a *** little b1tch coz she knew I was right!
24-04-2013 18:27 #125
Reading some of the other replies has made me look at things in a different light and I appreciate the point of view.
I've really only seen a handful of pregnant women smoking and as I said in my previous post I knew 2 of them. I also lived next door to a family of smokers who seemed to have no problem with the 20/day habit that the pregnant girlfriend had and made a point of saying how healthy the baby was when he was born. They also had no problem with the 50/day habit the mother had when she was well aware she had very serious heart problems. Oh and then there was the son, FOB previously mentioned, who happily smoked pot around his pregnant girlfriend and her 4 children from a previous relationship. I can't say I didn't judge in that case. They knew the risk and just didn't care.
Like others have said I'm one who doesn't understand why people smoke when there is so much evidence on just how bad it is. In saying that I probably shouldn't because I know that my diet has been far from healthy and has caused me a lot of health problems. I've made a lot of changes but I still have some ways to go to turn it around completely. next addiction to beat for me....dairy!
24-04-2013 18:51 #126
Don't get me wrong I loathe smoking - my mother has had crippling respiratory problems her entire life because she was raised by parents who smoked and she has paid the price (as did they by dying early of smoking related illnesses).
And I also don't get the pregnant woman smoking in public if that is the only one or two she has each day - but to me it's like shouting at an overweight person for eating junk food. No amount of judgment will really make them change - it will only make the person isolated and bitter.
I guess I was really surprised by people who admitted they smoked yet still judged others - I honestly find that very strange. I would like to think my failings make me more compassionate not less.
24-04-2013 18:55 #127
Yes I do, but I think it's due to my infertility. In the past I have said something to family and friends but never a stranger.
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