My husband doesn't bring in any income. It's tough on mat leave, which for me ends soon. The plan for me was to take next year off without pay, but I've started to resent the idea of burning through my savings when DH chooses not to work. So I will be going back part-time. It wasn't our original agreement, but I'm going to be a bish and renege. Savings that took me years to accumulate through hard work are kind of sacred to me!
So, yes, it's the source of some tension here.
Very different scenario to you, OP, but I do understand the tension and stress you are feeling. I believe you have the right to ask your DH to seek out work as part of his business ie swallow his pride and email friends/acquaintances to see if anyone can throw work his way or else seek other employment. Does he have hobbies/pastimes you finance? Maybe they have to go...
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20-04-2013 15:58 #11
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20-04-2013 16:12 #12
My dp brings in about half of what I do. It's hard and super annoying that he has to rely on me I would much rather love being more equal and not always have to whip out my wallet for us/him. The only thing that helps me is having a budget and sticking to it. My situation still really annoys me but since having the budget he has to put in as much as he can (so pretty much all his money too) which makes me less annoyed that he is putting in everything of his as I am.
The only thing I can think of besides a budget to double check where all your money is going (I was so shocked to where mine was going) is having a proper chat with your DH and perhaps make a job arrangement for him while you have young children dependent on you both or a better business plan for his work to bring in more money.
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20-04-2013 18:07 #13
One thing I do find helps is, whenever I do need to talk to him about finances/timeframe for him wrapping things up, I always start the discussion with something along the lines of "You know I don't like to need to talk about this because I know no one puts more pressure on you than yourself, but....". Because that is the truth of it, I know he feels 10 times as stressed about it as me, I know the feelings of failure that he is facing (I've tried unsucessfully to set up my own business in the past, pre-DH), but these things do still need to be discussed.
Good luck, it's not an easy thing to go through.
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Thanks everyone it makes it a little easier to deal with when u know you're not the only one with similar probs. I will have a think about your suggestions. Thanks again.
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