You simply cannot know beyond doubt how you or your partner would deal with certain curve balls. The death or permanent disablement of a child, an injury to one of you that leaves you irreversibly changed in some way, a long and unavoidable absence. You can't know how you would change, you can't know how your partner would change, and you sure cant know how your relationship would change. That's not to say we should live our lives in the shadow of looming peril, but we sure as hell shouldn't judge others for such things.
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22-04-2013 11:35 #114Senior Member
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22-04-2013 13:53 #115
DS was a mistake, an error in judgement. I'm not afraid to admit that. I'd have to have been crazy to plan to have a baby to XDP. But some mistakes turn out to be the best sliding doors moment in your life- and DS was mine, I tell him that every day, and he thanks me for "borning" him.
24-04-2013 20:11 #116
I don't really care TBH. I'm happy that my boys have the same dad, as they both got his super good looks, but it wouldn't be the end of the world if they had different dads.
Just to add I've being asked if they have the same dad quiet a few times as well. Especially when ds2 was younger. I loved the follow up of 'and you're still together!?'
24-04-2013 20:16 #117
I don't think I am better than someone who has children to different fathers. I feel lucky to have my beautiful children to my fantastic husband. I feel lucky that my kids have the most AWESOME father!!! I came from a blended family and never saw anything wrong with it.
24-04-2013 20:17 #118
I only have one kid and pregnant with another
Both same dad
I don't feel better in the slightest but I feel bloody relieved. I often think and see how hard it is having children from different families, step siblings, half siblings, step parents etc
It's often complicated logistically as well as emotionally, I think it would make an already hard job even harder.
25-04-2013 06:40 #119
Mine is different and I am a product of a bad choice and I am the one who has spent 30 years not knowing anything about my father or his family.
It's not just about a mother being a great parent, luckily my mum made a better choice second and third time and my step dad is amazing.
25-04-2013 06:55 #120
Not at all. I do feel for those having to juggle visitation etc but they are neither worse nor better than me. I definitely judge on some things but paternity isn't one.
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