I think its wrong to baptise your child if BOTH parents are not on the same practicing page.
These things need to be sorted out before you set up house and have kids IMO.
If Dh was not a practicing catholic I would have moved on quickly.
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17-04-2013 14:29 #21
17-04-2013 14:34 #22
Surely this is on the list of things to discuss before marriage and kids?
She should tell him he needs to demonstrate he's serious about his faith if he expects her to take him seriously about it.
17-04-2013 18:50 #23Senior Member
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I believe that teaching children to not be critical, and that they should believe in an imaginary friend, is actually wrong. I have a fundamental objection to organised religion, and therefore being baptised was me essentially being inducted into such an organisation. My issue is that I don't want anything to do with organised religion, and I wish that I could go back and not have been exposed to it. There is now a record of me being inducted into that church, and I am now nominally a member of it. In the future, when my descendants look at records, they may see me as a member of the Catholic church - an organisation which I believe to be detrimental to society.
17-04-2013 18:59 #24
See I was baptised as a baby and it doesn't really bother me. I'm very strongly atheist and just see it as a silly ritual that my mother thought was important. I won't be baptising my kids but it hasn't harmed me in any way.
17-04-2013 19:06 #25
17-04-2013 19:12 #26
I'm not just "meh, I don't believe," about religion, I am actively AGAINST indoctrinating small children, especially my own (I don't agree with other people doing it either, but I don't actually care that much... not my kids, not my choice, not my business).
So it wouldn't be a case of just taking one for the team... it would be actively going against my beliefs. Yes, as an atheist, I can have beliefs... they're just not based in religion.
It's not simply a matter of not believing in it - it's a matter of being actively against it.
You can't really compromise in this anyway... other than to say, "Well, they can be baptised... when they're an adult and have chosen to be themselves." Which, really, wouldn't be a compromise but a win for me as that's how I want things to be for my child anyway.
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17-04-2013 19:29 #27Senior Member
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I'm with Sassy on this one. My atheism is not just a lack of belief, but an active belief in how the world works, and one that I feel is part of my duty as a parent to pass onto my children.
For my children to be baptised as minors would be anathema to my beliefs.
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17-04-2013 19:37 #28
I can never understand why couples don't discuss this sort of thing before they enter into a serious relationship/marriage/have children. If I were married to an athiest I am sure I would know about it, just as if I were married to someone who felt strongly about Baptism I would know about it.
I can't imagine that suddenly oneday it would 'come up' and either of us not knowing where the other stood on the subject.
It just never ceases to amaze me the things people don't discuss and this subject is one of them.
17-04-2013 19:38 #29
17-04-2013 19:51 #30
Being Catholic myself but not practising (I don't attend mass) I find this a very conflicting issue, I understand entirely the wanting to baptise simply due to family tradition more than any connection to a god or religion. The issue is not as black and white as some may think it is. Religion is more than what someone believes in, it's part of their belonging in their family and community.
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