Gee, that is so rude. I had that happen to me once, my sister.... lol. She didnt turn up. What a waste of 3 hours of my life. Wheb you are waiting for someone times passes slower, the kids go nuts because they are bored. You go nuts because you are bored. It sucks.
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17-04-2013 12:38 #32Senior Member
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I so want cake now. Do you wanna send your Aunt over to visit me? :-D
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17-04-2013 12:54 #33Senior Member
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But pushing yourself into someones private space like that is creepy> I think you have a right to be weirded out by it.
I have to be honest, my first thought is he had an ulterior motive.
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17-04-2013 13:17 #34
I would ring or text and see what was happening. I wouldn't wait around all day.
17-04-2013 13:49 #35
My hubby just told me that next time my mum or anyone else I suppose lingers around (by that I mean stays for too long, or pops in uninvited), you just get back to whatever it was that were doing, or had planned for the day. Be it cleaning or you have to go somewhere, and stick to it. Just say "Alright, well it was nice seeing you today.... and start doing what you were doing".. I have never done this, but I have had many talks with my family about random pop ins, and do still feel awkward saying that I have something to do with my time, or actually just getting on with my life and not worrying about unintended interruptions.
My mum was brought up in a way where its normal for people just pop in...
My hubby is completely against it, and thinks its just rude. Why not call in advance a schedule? Noone knows what you have planned for the day if they dont do this, if there is persistant ignorance towards common curtesy then yeah uts just plain rude. Even if you have nothing planned for the day, make something up and try to reschedule it. That might help to get the hint accross.... Does anyone have any tactics that they use without having to lie to invent stories and lie, anything that doesnt sound rude either
17-04-2013 14:04 #36
My MIL used to do this. Seems MIL had a knack of turning up whenever our sleepless bub finally got off to sleep, or I was in my PJ's without a bra and my hair not brushed or some other inconvenient time!
MIL is in her 60' and in her day everybody just 'popped in'. Apparently.
Anyway it got to the stage that I had no choice but to be rude. I am not a rude person in general but it got too much. I told her we actually have a life and run off our own schedule, not hers , and sometimes her timing isn't great.
MIL didn't like it, but in the end got over it and now doesn't just pop in any more. It also helps that we moved 2.5 hours away from her
17-04-2013 14:12 #37
We also had issues with Auntys dropping in unannounced even though we asked several times for at least 10minutes notice.
One Aunty dropped in on a weekend and my husband answered the door in his boxer shorts. She never dropped in unannounced ever again.
The other Aunty was dropping in when DS was just a baby. I was exhausted and tired. I would let her in and sit there in a sleep deprived state and not offer a drink or try to tidy up.
I know she meant well but I was so tired. Both Auntys have mobile phones. I think its rude not giving at least 10 minutes notice.
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17-04-2013 14:24 #39
I assume morning tea is around 10.30, but I think that's because I'm the parent of a young child. I wouldn't, for example, eat lunch around 12 normally if I didn't have a kid to feed... so maybe morning tea gets pushed back a bit if lunch is also pushed back? A normal lunch is about 1.30 for me, so 11/11.30 morning tea probably makes sense...
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