If I grew up and had to hear the story of how Mum earnt an awesome once in a lifetime trip overseas, but chose to go because she felt guilty or was made to feel guilty about missing my 2nd birthday, I would feel gutted that my Mum did that for me and I would feel guilty!
Go Puppy Guts and go without guilt, you can celebrate your little one's birthday before or after that week.
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07-04-2013 14:22 #51
07-04-2013 14:32 #52Senior Member
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From the sounds of it, you have already made up your mind about whether or not YOU want to go, maybe you're just worried about what other people think? Life is too short to give a damn about what others think. Once in a lifetime, thats what its all about! Good luck!
07-04-2013 14:34 #53
Sorry I must've typo"d.
He isn't turning two, he's the 2nd child, it would be his first bday I'm missing.
Thanks everyone. His dad will be here and will do something, and I'm glad everyone kind of agrees. I didn't feel guilty at all until someone said 'when he's older he will ask where u are in his bday pics'
I work for a hair salon that specialises in extensions. My boss has a school friend who worked on kendra so has connections over there and gets to attend these parties, she goes a lot but is paying for me to go with her because she knows how sad I was at missing out last yr coz of pregnancy.
I'm getting my boobs done in sept so everyone has been saying how selfish I'm being in going away for that but dh will have just finished a 4 yr FiFO job and I just want some Sarah time and I know it's selfish but I just feel like I've sacrificed so much the last couple of years and I really wanna do this to remember who I am. And dh ha no problems he is excited for me and is telling me I deserve it
07-04-2013 16:50 #54
Well then GO! Is it possible to completely put off the day and celebrate it all together before you go? Then he will still have the photos to rub into the rude people's noses who think they have a right to comment on your private life haha.
07-04-2013 16:55 #55
07-04-2013 19:47 #56Senior Member
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I'm going to go against the majority and say I think you should really think twice about going. Lots of people have said that there'll be plenty of other birthdays to celebrate, and I truly hope there are, but you don't know that for sure. When we celebrated our daughter's 5th birthday in Sept 2011, we thought we'd celebrate many many more in the years to come, but in May last year she died from an asthma attack and we will never be able to celebrate her birthday with her again. I certainly hope that nothing EVER happens to your children, but you just never know what life is going to throw you and I think it would be heartbreaking for you to look back and know that you missed your little one's 1st birthday. Just my thoughts.
07-04-2013 19:55 #57
Personally I wouldn't go, but that's just me.
But if you really want to go, go. And try not to let comments by others bother you.
07-04-2013 20:11 #58
Go. Do you care about your own first birthday now? I doubt I even had one!
For me, it's not the birthday that counts, it's how you are every other day of the year with your child. That stays with them more than your attendance at one date they will never remember. If you're doing that right, you're a great mum and you deserve to have some fun. So go have some!
07-04-2013 20:18 #59
Thanks. With dh FIFO he last 4 years I feel attached to these kids 24/7 and I know I should feel a bit guilty but ...I don't? I really think I deserve it and some think bdays are a big deal but not to us. Same as some love staying home with their kids for years on edge but I would rather work.
I think I would be miserable if I stayed coz I would think about it constantly and it would be in my face. I realises today too even if I didn't go I would have to work that day to cover the people that went so why not go anyway!!
And my husband said tonight 'in 17 years he would be spewing that you DIDN'T go to the playboy mansion'
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