It meant you miss your 2nd child's first bday?
I'm going on an all expenses paid week long trip to LA to go to the holloween party at playboy mansion with work and I have worked so hard for this reward and it won't be offered again but I may miss being with ds on his bday.
I'm copping a lot of criticism for wanting to go but dh has missed 3/4 bdays for dd and noone said boo yet a horrible for even considering going
1st bdays in our house are celebrated by a fam trip to zoo or beach or something. No party or anything so we were gonna celebrate the week before.
I just dunno what to do. I realllly want to go I will never get this opportunity again and he is so young he wouldn't remember me being there or not bit everyone is makin me feel so bad!!!
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07-04-2013 07:59 #1
Would you miss out on a once in a lifetime trip if
07-04-2013 08:04 #2
I wouldn't go but then again the idea of going to the Playboy mansion has less than no appeal for me.
07-04-2013 08:04 #3
DS' first birthday DH was away on a work trip (was meant to be home but airport got closed so could not get a flight home), we just told DS his birthday was the day of his party and he had a great time.
We told DS his second birthday was the day of his actual party (2 days beforehand) and he was none the wiser.
Take the trip, do the family outing a week before or after (whatever suits).
07-04-2013 08:06 #4
I say go. Yes birthdays are important but there's lots more to come. Is your DH going to be home? If so then he can be in charge of the birthday. Go, have fun and do something super special when you get home. Parents miss kids birthdays for all kinds of reasons and you know what, it's not the end of the world and the kids are fine.
07-04-2013 08:09 #5
Gosh that's a hard one...
I am like super attached to my DD...at 2.5 years old I still won't leave her overnight lol but if an opportunity like that came up I'm pretty sure it would be 'yep where's my passport!' There will be so many more birthdays you can celebrate and he won't even realize at this age whether you celebrate it before or after. You have obviously worked so hard to earn such an amazing trip, take it and enjoy it!
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07-04-2013 08:09 #6
If the trip is something you really want to do, i say go.
Celebrate your childs birthday before you leave/when you get back.
07-04-2013 08:10 #7Senior Member
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My immediate reaction was 'no way' but I'm trying to take a step back and think of what I would consider to be a once in a lifetime opportunity. You couldn't actually pay me to go to the PB mansion, but I wonder if my reaction would be different if it was a trip that meant something to me.
I don't know, I don't think I could go on an OS trip without my baby, but I don't think anything less of others that could/would either. If its really your dream or something super important to you then I guess you could celebrate his birthday before/after your trip? You are right in that he would likely be none the wiser, it would just be something that you and your hubby would have to be ok with I guess.
Best of luck!
07-04-2013 08:11 #8
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07-04-2013 08:12 #9
Of course you should go!!!!!!!! This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. You should definately go. Life's too short. There will be plenty more birthdays you'll be at.
I think as mums we put Everybody else before us as it is. Do this for yourself. You won't regret it.
07-04-2013 08:13 #10
I would go. You will have loads more birthdays in the future and your baby won't realise you aren't there on the ACTUAL birthday, just pretend its when you get back and do the family outing thing
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