Just had to wave my little monkeys away for the weekend. DS1 was so upset. Kept asking for one more cuddle and said he wanted to stay with me. My heart breaks for him. I know how I feel so I can't imagine how crushing it is for a 5 year old.
I just told him he can call whenever he wants to talk to me. He absolutely adores his dad and loves the time he spends with him so I have no concerns about him going there. I just feel so unnatural about it all at the moment. It feels wrong to be away from my babies so much (even though it's only 4 nights a fortnight).
I'm sure I'll drink myself stupid, sleep all day tomorrow and count down the hours until they come home. I'm starting to wonder if perhaps I've got a small case of depression. My doctor has mentioned it to me and I brushed it off. But I'm finding myself more and more wishing my days away. I don't like feeling like this as I'm normally a positive go getter. I just haven't been myself lately and I miss that happy and secure feeling I used to have being a single mother
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06-04-2013 10:38 #1
Remind me why this is good again??!
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06-04-2013 10:44 #2
See the positive in the fact that he wants to be with you. You are allowed time away from him and be glad that he WANTS to stay with you given the choice. My DS cant wait to get away from me and to his dads place when he goes every 3rd week...its soo upsetting. See the positive and try to find something that you enjoy doing while he is gone..something just for you that makes you happy.
06-04-2013 10:55 #3
Thanks London. I know - I do love that he wants to be with me, but I also love that he likes being with his dad. I think it would break my heart more if I was making him go somewhere he didn't want to. I'm just struggling a bit with my emotions lately. Time to gain control again I think. I might start journaling again...
06-04-2013 10:57 #4
Im a huge believer in writing things down. Journaling can be hugely helpful
06-04-2013 11:09 #5
I'm one of the ones who pops the champagne cork when DD goes to her Dad's for the weekend, lol. However DD cries most days when I drop her off at school, even though she has a great time and loves it, so I know that awful feeling well.
Is there any reason why you don't have plans - catching up with friends, shopping, etc? Even if you don't feel like getting out initially, it might make you feel better?
06-04-2013 11:40 #6
06-04-2013 12:05 #7
Yeah I know what you mean, a similar thing has happened to me - the one "main" friend I have has just shacked up with her partner, she barely even responds to my texts/calls anymore and always says no to invitations to do things All the others live a long way away and have drifted away.
Thank goodness for bubhub or I wouldn't "talk" to anyone for 48 hours!!
06-04-2013 12:06 #8
I think thats normal these days. People are becoming homebodies more and more. I know me and DP are.
06-04-2013 12:27 #9
Why can't we all just live in the same area?? Lol Yeah I don't mind being at home too - but sometimes I just need to get out. Particularly as I live with my mum at the moment and she's having her friends over tonight :/ ha
06-04-2013 12:31 #10
I also count down the days until my DDs come back from their Dads. Tomorrow they are going for a week. I spend each day counting down the sleeps multiple times a day (even though it hasn't changed lol).
They have asked me to call them three times while they are there, whether or not he answers the phone is the question
I sleep away the time as well, although this time I have a whole heap of uni statistics to try and understand. I am sure the time is just going to slow.
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