She honestly didn't realize that taking a child to meet some guy off the internet was wrong, I tried to explain it and she honestly just didn't get it! And she still ended up choosing the guy over looking after DD who she left with my brother. It just feels that nothing is important to her other than herself.
The compromize is a really good idea actually as I don't want to stop her having a relationship with DD buy just want to be sure she is stable (for lack of better word) before I let her stay overnight again. Thanks so much for your advice, If she really wants to see her granddaughter id hope that she would be happy to compromise. I think im seeing her at some stage today so I'll see what she says. I can imagine that no matter what I say she will just be offended but then it will be her loss I guess!
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05-04-2013 08:59 #11
05-04-2013 09:04 #12
I think saying "not yet" then changing the subject is a good idea, hopefully I can actually follow through with it though!! Wish me luck, this will probably start a family war haha!!
05-04-2013 09:20 #13
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05-04-2013 13:39 #14
So she just came over and asked about Saturday again and I said I still wasn't comfortable with the idea but she could spend the day with DD etc and she just said she didn't understand and thinks I don't trust her which I said wasn't true I just wasn't comfortable with her going there as I don't really know him and her answer for that was that she knows him and wouldn't let anything happen to her anyway I'm left feeling crappy and guilty silly pregnancy hormones made me ball my eyes out when she left too, I am glad I stood my ground but I still feel really bad, she looked so hurt!
05-04-2013 14:42 #15
Oh big hugs, I'm sorry she's being so difficult
I think her inability to see this from your perspective and her need to make it all about her are very telling traits. She doesn't sound emotionally mature at all. Understanding this doesn't make your life with her easier, but it might help you to manage your own expectations of her.
05-04-2013 14:56 #16
Big hugs. I'm so sorry she's making this all about her and not accepting your decision gracefully. DH's mum gets like this and his reply to the trust barb is that the more she makes me him feel pressured, the less he trusts her. To him, it's the honest truth.
06-04-2013 07:06 #17
I know what you mean about managing my expectations of her though, I guess I just hope that there is some of my old mum in there (she's always been a little bit flaky but nothing like this) I just wish she would realize she needs to help herself and sort out her issues!
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