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    Default Wdyt? Engagement party etiquette

    A friends engagement party is coming up and we are quite short on money at the moment as have had a few unexpected expenses recently so really have to watch what we spend. Its a byo alcohol event and we have been asked to bring a dessert too and they want money instead of gifts. How much do you think is a reasonable amount to give? I was thinking maybe $30? Is that stingy do u think?

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    Wow for a bring dessert and byo I'd say no way! Bit cheeky

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    At a close friends engagement party a few years ago they had a wishing well. We had had pretty big expenses before and she understood this. We ended up putting $50 in. She appreciated this and said it was far more important that we were there

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    Byo alcohol and a desert AND money. Gosh that's a bit rude.

    I think $30 is absolutely fine.

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    I wouldn't give them anything. I think engagement gifts in general are cheeky. But bring a dessert, byo and give us cash too? Come off it! If you feel you have to, $30 is plenty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by waterlily View Post
    Byo alcohol and a desert AND money. Gosh that's a bit rude.

    I think $30 is absolutely fine.
    I thought the same .......

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    Quote Originally Posted by Littlemissellie View Post
    A friends engagement party is coming up and we are quite short on money at the moment as have had a few unexpected expenses recently so really have to watch what we spend. Its a byo alcohol event and we have been asked to bring a dessert too and they want money instead of gifts. How much do you think is a reasonable amount to give? I was thinking maybe $30? Is that stingy do u think?
    The fact that they've asked you to bring a dessert and it's BYO drinks I honestly wouldn't give them anything except for a card. It's an engagement party not a wedding. Other than that I think $30 is great!!

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    I don't understand engagement presents myself. I'd just take the dessert. If they are true friends they would understand your situation. I could never dream of asking others for money simply because I got engaged, especially if they were doing it tough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    I wouldn't give them anything. I think engagement gifts in general are cheeky. But bring a dessert, byo and give us cash too? Come off it! If you feel you have to, $30 is plenty.
    Totally this. I don't get the point of engagement gifts especially when you have to cough up for a wedding present shortly afterwards anyway... but that's just me.

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    This made me lol, are they actually providing anything? Or just running a cash collection? Might have been easier to just skip the 'party' & hand out their bank details...

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