That would annoy me too. I think its ok to have a kid free party (I did for mine) but a seperate family friendly invite to have a cake would be nice x
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01-04-2013 10:45 #11
01-04-2013 10:54 #12
I think it's ok to have a child free party or dinner or whatever but he needs to perhaps be a whole lot more tactful or employ a little more sensitivity
Is it today? If you can't or would prefer not to get a sitter, could you go alone and leave DH with the kids?
Call your brother, wish him a very happy birthday and let him know you are available for dinner or whatever it is and would love to go and spend time with him and your family.
Life is too short
01-04-2013 11:03 #13Senior Member
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Its been going on since i fell pregnant with DD (over 4 years ago). He didnt wasnt interested that he was going to be an uncle. He wasnt interested in meeting his neice. DD (4 yrs) is afriad of him cos he just stands there like a wall and when she tries to engage him, he just says nothing. I mean, i do get it, some people dont like kids but this is family...theres a certain amount you do for family.
Both my mum and his fiance always just brush it off and say 'thats just him, you know what hes like'. Ive had enough of that cr@p too.
01-04-2013 11:17 #14
I think its really silly that they are enabling his behaviour. Really he is 30 years old, you dont have to like children, but you dont need to be rude about it. Its called empathy.
We all do things we dont like in life....it shows how much we care about the other person in how we do the things we dont like for them IYKWIM.
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01-04-2013 12:17 #15
Sheesh I wish I could be an a$$hole and get away with it cause 'that's just me'!
What a ridiculous excuse for his behavior
01-04-2013 12:24 #16
Now let me preface this by saying I don't know whether this is the case or not...
But is it possible that he just doesn't like YOU as well? Or how becoming a mother has made you (because it usually makes people change at least a little)?
I totally get that it would hurt and why you're angry and whatnot, but it seems like such a simple solution to just let you know that it wasn't kid-friendly, that if he didn't take that option, it makes me wonder whether it's more than just not liking children.
I also agree that you do certain things for family... I put up with crap from mine because I just put up with more from family than I would from anyone else, but I also know not everyone does that, it self-sacrificing like that tends to be something I see more in women than in men.
01-04-2013 14:55 #17Senior Member
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I just feel like im always worried about what HE wants and making him happy cos thats 'just him'. I mean, i will do things for family that im not 100% keen on becasue they are family and thats what you do for family but when you dont get it in return it starts to hurt. He is very selfish and is always very vocal about not wanting to do something and most of the time refuses to do it. When his fiance makes him do something (like attend his neice's 1st birthday) he sit around with a sullen look on his face and wont even engage others in conversation.
Im sick of it.
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