The awful thing about CC is that the baby does learn to self settle, but only because she learns that it doesn't matter if she cries, no one is coming to meet her cries. So she gives up. That's just so sad to me
That is obviously not a scientific study, just the opinion of a Mummy
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28-03-2013 11:51 #31
28-03-2013 11:55 #32
*also I have to add that we have never had sleeping issues at night, however this very well could be due to the fact we have bedshared from birth. So I can't respond from a place of sleep deprivation either. My baby never liked sleeping alone so we just didn't persist with something that WAS going to make everyone sleep deprived.
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I bed shared til 5 months but stopped cause neither of us was getting sleep
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28-03-2013 12:24 #36Senior Member
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Thanks everyone for the discussion. It's very interesting to hear from those who have used cc and the stories that go with it. I know the idea makes me feel a bit sick but at the same time am I also doing him a disservice by not giving him the opportunity to get back into self-settling so he sleeps better? He never used to cry when he woke - he seems unhappy about being awake and I'm not a very patient mummy on the sixth wake-up for no reason.
As someone commented above, it does seem strange that he could self settle and now seems to have forgotten how to.
I do blame the dummy for a lot of this and have confiscated it as of yesterday morning. He was pretty bad again last night but seemed to be looking for it less, perhaps.
With cc, I gather the idea is that you go in and shh and pat at certain time frames but not pick them up? I am
Not sure how this would work with my DS as he tends not to settle without being picked up and I fear I might stimulate him to cry even more by coming in and then going away again without cuddling him.
28-03-2013 12:27 #37
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28-03-2013 13:10 #39
I am anti-cc for various reasons but mainly because I really would not like to only be afforded certain types of comfort if I was upset myself. DD rarely cries but I know if I didn't action her distress quickly she would get worked up rather than going to sleep anyway. I believe she rarely cries because DP & I see to her needs quickly at all times - overnight included. This approach wouldn't work for everyone I am sure, and at times I do feel drained (like today, after rocking her for over an hr at 3am) but we are very attached to one another & I can't bear the thought of her ever thinking I don't want to cuddle or comfort her for any reason. So she has my full attention whenever she needs it & it works for us so far. She's an absolutely rubbish sleeper.
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28-03-2013 13:32 #40
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