Before iPhone it was worse for kids! As a kid I spent week days standing in the bank line, standing in the Medicare or medibank line, standing in the insurance line, doing the huge weekly shop etc all the while expected to behave and be good. Remember lines in those places back then? Or tugging at mums pants while she sat at the phone organising work or being dragged into her work to sort out small things. NOW my kids play for hours at parks and have babycinos while I do all if that online. I don't even need to do grocery shopping. I get a lot more free time as a mum with an iPhone than my mum did back then. By the time we would get home exhausted from all the things we had to get done no way was mum playing with us, and we didn't want her to! I do think validating important feelings are good but my children can play without needing an adult constantly telling them how beautiful each twirl is and wonderful every scoop of sand they are picking up is. I think being too involved hinders imagination and free play and I'm actually against it.
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12-03-2013 12:22 #41
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12-03-2013 12:47 #42
I haven't read the whole thread, but I do see the point in the OP.
At home I'm often on my phone, my kids play together and very independently, they just like to know I'm there.
But I make a point of leaving my phone in the car while at the park, playgroups, etc... As my kids do require my full attention, for safety, but also for interactive play. My son reached the top of a climbing frame he's never climbed yesterday, he turned to me to see if I was excited about his 'Everest' and yes, I was.
It's good to find times where you can give their play your full attention. But agree with PPs that having my iPhone makes me a better mum, my social interactions are better catered for, my kids don't have to be dragged around doing errands. It's great.
12-03-2013 12:59 #43
I don't know if I'm a bad mum who's addicted to her iPhone/iPad or an introvert who must use the device to mentally check out of social situations (including time with my children) when I feel like i need a break. Either way, my son probably wishes I'd spend more time watching him line up cars, but the trade off is that he gets ages in the bath when usually I'm done after 5 minutes
12-03-2013 13:08 #44
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12-03-2013 13:12 #45
12-03-2013 13:16 #46Senior Member
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Sheesh, yeah - what's a break?
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12-03-2013 13:17 #47
Some kids don't like being played with. Or don't actually play when you try and play with them, but waffle on and on about god only knows what, so by playing with them, you actually make sure they don't do any playing at all.
Or, you know, sometimes you just hate playing.
Different stuff works for different families. You're not a jerk mum just because you find playing on equipment mundane, annoying, etc.
12-03-2013 13:22 #48
I'm on Android so clearly I am exempt to receiving bad looks
*This post is Chuck Norris approved*
12-03-2013 13:23 #49
12-03-2013 13:23 #50
I'm ok, mines an android
I was actually thinking about this today. I barely do my other hobbies because I'll usually sit down and do this 'easy' hobby. It has no clean up and interuptions are easier to manage than say knitting, sewing, cross stitch. I want my child to be a reader and crafty, so I should be demonstrating that.
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