Alittle - I'm so glad you have let us know you are around.
Please, there is no judgement here. We all know the pain of getting that bfp, but we cannot fathom having to make the heartbreaking decisions you have had to make.
We are all here for you. Let us be the shoulders you can rest your weary head on when you are at your lowest.
We will never judge you.
Much love to you and your family. Xxxx
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08-05-2013 20:20 #351
08-05-2013 20:21 #352
Alittle - it is such a cruel position to be in.
I would have made the same decision, and like you I would have made it with a heavy heart. A sad loss for you but I think it is a good choice for your little family and I hope that you can console yourself by knowing you are making the choice from a place of love.
so heartbreaking for you
08-05-2013 21:09 #353
Alittle my heart goes out to you. I don't think any of us would judge you. It's an untenable situation and no option is pain free. Either decision is done for love. I think it takes piles of courage to make the decision that is right for you and your family. Try as best you can to let it go now. Dont judge yourself hon. As you said you know you have made the right decision for your family. I hope you can move forward. Much love x
09-05-2013 07:22 #354Senior Member
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Alittle - I'm so very sorry this has happened to your family. You have to make the decision that is right for you, and this is personal, so don't worry about being judged. The ladies here know everything is shades of grey, not black and white. Wishing you lots of support and love.
Happy birthday Ruby!
Amum - Your new friend is very special. It is such a wonderful thing for her to do for her brother. Thanks for the uplifting story.
09-05-2013 07:31 #355
Alittle, hi, I've been thinking about you. I hope the link I posted to the blog didn't upset you or seem like I was implying what I thought you should do. Whatever you choose is the right thing. FWIW, when I let my foster daughter go last year I was also in that position of knowing it was the right thing to do, but being in so much pain regardless and also feeling judged by others who didn't know the situation. We may not know all the ins and outs of your decision but we know you are a good woman and didn't come to it lightly.
Please don't keep it all in. You never know if sharing your feelings may help others feel less alone. As Sonja mentioned, there's a medical termination support section in the pregnancy loss section, where the ladies have already been through what you're going through.
I'm thinking of you and Amberley and DH.
09-05-2013 19:54 #356
09-05-2013 20:54 #357
Alittle - thank you for sharing your decision. As everyone here has already said there is no judgement here. We know where you've been in your ivf journey and we have felt your pain along the way. You are doing what is right for you and your family, you don't have to justify it to anyone. Blessings to you, DH and Amberley
09-05-2013 21:10 #358
Ruby had a lovely birthday thanks everyone. We are truly looking forward to waving bye bye to the terrible twos!
09-05-2013 21:22 #359
Kel lovely to hear she had a great day.
You thought the terrible 2s were bad
10-05-2013 06:24 #360Junior Member
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I am so sorry alittle. From another post you may remember I faced the same situation and feel your pain and confusion. I was devestated for you when i read about your results. In our hearts we so wanted to keep ours too but in our mind was a little different. One stupid extra chromosome!
We are nearly two years on and althought I will never forget, the pain has eased. I go to a special church to light a candle for anniversaries, and special days.. Xmas etc. I also bought a beautiful heart necklace for after the loss so that our baby is always with me. I'm sharing this with you incase some of these ideas help with the heartbreaking pain.
My thougts and love go out to you. No one should ever have to go thought this. Lots of hugs. Xxx
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