I am the BM of two gorgeous DDs but have repartnered so figured this would probably fit best here. I am at my wits end with the girls Bio dad. DP and I have the girls all the time excepting every 3rd weekend and (supposedly) half if each school holidays. We've been separated for 2 years and in that time Bio Dad has decided to move to NZ for 6 months, change his visits from bi-weekly to every school holidays to a week of the Xmas holidays to the current arrangement. He pays no child support at all yet moans about the $30 each visit for the round trip to pick up and drop off the girls. Apparently I am struggling with them because this weekend the found some lice in their hair. Never mind that I informed him on pick up that I had treated them on Thursday so they may have some eggs or hatched lice -!: never mind the fact that one is in school and the other is in daycare. Apparently since both DP and I work full-time and we have told him that we are not sharing the tolls cost for visits unless he starts helping out with their living costs means we're struggling financially and can't cope with them. I am very quickly coming to understand the BMs out there who take their kids and leave the state or take off and never let Bio dad see the kids. I guess I'd like to know whether the step mums and bio dad's in this section think that his behaviour is acceptable and we should just suck it up or whether we are right to be seriously frustrated.
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03-03-2013 20:23 #1
Problems with Bio dad
03-03-2013 20:28 #2
I would be seriously frustrated! Why don't you call the CSA and they can take over collection of his child support?
03-03-2013 20:32 #3
Because according to them he doesn't need to pay anything
03-03-2013 20:38 #4
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03-03-2013 20:42 #7
Emails have got us absolutely nowhere unfortunately. I will be researching mediation tonight and calling around over the next day or two to get things rolling. I guess I just wanted confirmation that we're not being unreasonable and that he is in fact being frustratingly self absorbed about the whole matter
03-03-2013 20:45 #8
03-03-2013 20:45 #9
My ex also whinges he has dd when he feels like it approx one night a month, he complains about how far he has to come to get her we meet half way actually probably closer for him. He complains that it's petrol is expensive, I'm the one that drives dd round all the time, he won't make an effort with my dh so I'm the one who always has to do drop off and pick up. My dd is almost 11 and has worked out he's such a loser refuses to go most weeks hence the one night a month.
It's hard but hang in there, your kids come first, good luck
03-03-2013 20:47 #10
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