My sister was in a relationship with a man like this for 2yrs. And anything that happened that meant 'commitment' made him want to end the relationship. I think they broke up twice. (both times for 24hrs)
To the point, no matter how hard you try they won't give in.
So I think it is best you let him go.
But regardless of what he wants, he did help make a baby with you. Even if he doesn't do anything, I think his name should be on the certificate.
Otherwise good luck and congratulations. You are a great mum and will be a beautiful little family.
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03-03-2013 06:49 #11
03-03-2013 07:38 #12Senior Member
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Hey hun so sorry to hear about this silly grown baby you are dealing with when you have a wonderful gift just rnd the corner.
Focus on the baby, if that man (grown baby) is acting like this now when you most need him and has been so horrible and blunt to you through out, do not give him the time of day! He won't change and it will just cause you more heartache.
Just enjoy parenthood and your exciting times ahead - congrats!!!
03-03-2013 17:28 #13
Hey there, big hugs. Your better off without him. In saying that, I think you should out his name on the birth certificate! He's the father for gods sake! It's his child like it or not! He should pay child support! I'm good luck on your birth though.
03-03-2013 20:48 #14
OP, I'm also having a baby tomorrow without FOB around. I know exactly your fears and sadness tonight.
My situation is a little different, in that I was married and already have a DS with exDH. But he left us suddenly when I was 17wks pregnant with this baby (unplanned). He's also 37yrs old and given he willingly married me and we went through IVF for DS1, his lack of commitment is even worse.
Try to focus on your baby and the wonderful cuddles you will have tomorrow. I'm very glad you have a support network around you, as do I, which we both need right now.
I wish you the very best of luck. PM me any time you need to chat
04-03-2013 09:53 #15
Good luck today, OP...
04-03-2013 18:27 #16
I hope the birth of your baby went well. I suspect some of your stress may have disappeared once you saw your little one.
Like some of the others said even if your ex doesn't want the responsibility of raising the baby he still has a legal responsibility to provide child support. I wouldn't leave his name of the certificate without thinking carefully about the implications. I used to work for Centrelink and they will make life tough without a name on the certificate as you won't be able to claim a higher rate of FTB.
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