We have moved back to a small town and when a wedding occurs its very much town excitement. No one gives little here, its just not done. So perhaps we are talking the difference in 1. Generations, 2. Location, 3. Culture, 4. Wedding style???
And yes I'm sorry but I have found some posts in here towards others remarkably rude and nasty. Believe me I don't get offended easily and no offence has been shown to me at all, but I sure have noticed it. I just think its time to say give what you think you feel is fair (be that nothing, little, alot, whatever) and let us all just agree to disagree.
Is quite simple to say that considering the extent of this thread there will not be a time that all agree with an outcome.
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03-03-2013 17:55 #301
03-03-2013 18:08 #302
In Asia it can often be seen that grand weddings being luck. It's not just a western thing.
03-03-2013 18:11 #303
I think some of the opposition has come from the fact these expectations are of other people. If it were a thread about how much people spent on their wedding, I would raise my eye brows that someone would spend tens of thousands on one day. But the couple paid for it, that's entirely their business. But when the topic is about expecting *others* to give and setting expectations and making comments that $20 or $50 are in so many words stingey, well I think that's where the real disagreement has come from.
03-03-2013 18:14 #304
03-03-2013 18:35 #305
I genuinely feel bullied by buttermilk with regards to her comment that $20 must be from 'the new generation'. What a revolting remark. Yes, from the 'new' generation that don't believe you give to receive and that a wedding is a celebration. What horrible things for me to believe. What a nasty, cheap person I must be. I should probably write some mean spirited letters to all those who attended my wedding to share my joy and had the AUDACITY to not shower me with gifts alongside their well wishes.
03-03-2013 18:41 #306
I'm at the stage of life where so many of my friends are separating and divorcing, the idea of a wedding is a bit quaint to me.
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03-03-2013 18:44 #307
I'm sorry I just genuinely cannot see how you felt bullied by that? Seems a difference of opinion or perhaps a miss communication? Or heaven above you may have read to much into it perhaps?
I'm of a new generation and I love that. I wouldn't think someone suggesting me being of the "new generation" with different views any way revolting?
I have read what I thought was ALL the posts in this thread, but perhaps I must have missed one? I may be getting the wrong end of the stick regarding the comment but given what your post stated I honestly cannot see it as bullying. But hey perhaps as so many often state we must have a difference of opinion on what bullying or revolting means? I guess...
And yet again I say.. She did say if $20 is all you can afford then fine but perhaps buy a gift for it be more meaningful as usually with wedding gifts/wells $20 is low. That is all.
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03-03-2013 18:46 #308
All these years later I remember the people that couldn't make it, not the cost of the gifts. My brother missed my wedding due to work and I really missed him. If he had skipped it because he couldn't get there and get me an "appropriate" gift I would have felt absolutely awful.
I think it's a lovely thought to set people up for their future, if I was wealthy I'd be happy to contribute hundreds. I didn't get that though (what I did get was awesome, and I'm very grateful ), and I can't afford to give it to others either.
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03-03-2013 18:47 #309
It made me feel as though I was being judged because of the amount I may choose to give and it's all because I'm part of the new (implied as clearly selfish) generation. I don't feel it's a generation thing at all and I resent the implication.
03-03-2013 18:54 #310
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