I also have friends who already lived together and still had one, but I think it's fine. I've had my own place for that long and still need stuff.
But I think brides do it because it's fun. I don't think the gifts matter, you aren't suppose to get anything exy anyway. It's one of those things that made the wedding impending real, we all got very excited at that point because family started arriving from interstate o/s and it starts the wedding fever.
Its all fun.
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01-03-2013 20:14 #201-
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01-03-2013 21:41 #202Senior Member
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The last wedding we went to, we gave $50.
This was because we had just (less than a month before) wiped our savings moving into our first home we purchased and it was what we could afford on top of - 2 nights accom, meals while away, petrol for quite a big drive (with a child who hates the car - Canb to Newcastle), time off work (i was a contractor so not paid for the day needed off work) and a cheap but nice dress I could wear since none of my pre baby wedding suitable outfits fitted anymore.
If I could have afforded $100 or even $150 I think that's a good/reasonable amount to give but like I said, we couldn't at the time but know our presence was appreciated.
02-03-2013 13:26 #203
02-03-2013 23:58 #204
I was talking about people who expect it. Some people in this thread have said they don't expect it, because they understand that saying "I expect money!" makes them sound like jerks... but they do basically hint that yes, a large sum of money is expected as a gift... or else they'll consider their guests rude.
03-03-2013 00:13 #205
Honestly last wedding I went to cost me several hundred dollars to attend as a brides maid, as I was travelling interstate with a nearly 3 year old, all up flights, train travel, hair, make up, dress, jaspers shirt, additional expenses of not being at home etc etc etc probably cost me nearly $1k (I also was a little afraid to ever actuslly tally it all up, I didn't want to know what it cost) so I didn't give a gift at all. It was a huge struggle financially to have gone at all, though thankfully I had 18 months to prepare.
Although I did iron a bazillion table runners and chair ties, I got down on the floor and helped unscrew, move and re screw the dance floor because the bride wanted it moved AND squished the most hideous spider I've ever seen in my life because it took a run at the bride - while 4.5 months pregnant - so I think I contributed plenty to that wedding. Lol.
03-03-2013 01:52 #206
Each to their own, I detest wishing wells. People always feel compelled to give more than they can afford. Plus sometimes people might want to make something or have a sentimental gift in mind. I personally hate the poems that go with the invites.
I also agree with pp, if you have a wedding and ask people to be part if it, I personally think its your responsibility to dress them and not ask them to pay for anything.
Horses for courses.
03-03-2013 02:53 #207
03-03-2013 07:04 #208Senior Member
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We're getting married early next yr and our list has many interstate who could drive and if they cant squeeze at my mums other local relations will pay for accommodation, we will also get a few here from Ozzie (wedding in NZ).
For me the most important thing is people come and help celebrate - we will have a wishing well or whatever ya call it but that's optional and can be done anonymously.
Weddings are expensive but why get married unless you can enjoy it with loved ones!?!my list is 160! And at $100pp it's costing a pack and we are just ya average middle class family but its important to us so we're saving hard.
03-03-2013 07:08 #209
Geez people are reading too much into this thread!
I don't think she was seeing her wedding as a business and made $$$
Im sure it was more referring to the amount they received to help start their marital life as husband and wife which usually requires a new house, fridge and kids (like in my situation). Their lovely guests were generous in helping them to start off, like in some traditions.
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03-03-2013 07:23 #210
I didn't 'expect' anything at my wedding. I felt actually felt a bit uncomfortable that some people gave us over $100 (approximately what it cost per head) because I felt like they were giving us more than they should *chuckle*.
But there were people that didn't give us anything, not even a card. And you know what? It actually didn't bother me in the slightest! But I also firmly believe in giving as much as I can when I attend a wedding because in my books the best gift you can give someone for their wedding is to help them start a new life without debt.
The majority of people go into some form of debt to finance a wedding these days (although there's a new trend to do it on the cheap which I think is awesome ) so I have no problem giving as much cash as I can rather than a physical gift.
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