I got married over here, and I paid for everything for my bridesmaids as I didn't feel right making them pay when they were doing me the honour of playing such a big part in my wedding (and all the time and responsibility that involves).
I've been bridesmaid a few times since moving to Australia, and it's expensive!
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My issue isn't a)people that spend a lot of their wedding b) those that receive a lot of expensive presents bc of a cultural norm. I get annoyed at the pressure that is put on guests to give large amounts by the B&G. The complaining over small amounts. The suggestion that people should be covering their own reception costs.
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Demanding cash, no one demands cash amounts, wanting to re coup costs because they can't afford it? All your assumptions.
And yes I think it's more polite to respect people's traditions and customs, you are their guest.
01-03-2013 18:06 #178
I also know someone that b**ched to me someone had only given them $40
01-03-2013 18:10 #179
We are going around in circles so I'll leave it there.
01-03-2013 18:10 #180
Buttermilk - Would you condemn a friend who came to your wedding who was in a tight financial position who was not able to gift the appropriate gift amount in their envelope?
You seem to think that all of the Australians are saying "We are aussie so we can just give 20 bucks" - I have not seen anyone suggesting this, merely that we perhaps have different wedding traditions to you and making is large financial gift is not expected. Putting pressure on wedding guests to keep up with people who are better financially resourced is not fair and would alienate people, or put them under a great deal of pressure.
I have been to wedding that would have paid $45 per head for the meal (and others where the family did all the food themselves), and others where it would have cost $130. I just can't see how the *rule of thumb* can work with weddings today where there is such a vast divide in wedding costs.
Can I ask what culture you are from that has this tradition?
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