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    Default Re: At least she was honest...

    God, boys get a bad wrap at times. I happen to think boys at just great. They can be more affectionate than girls, they are so much fun with how boisterous they can be, I think the innate physicality that some boys demonstrate is remarkable. I would love a little, boofy boy one day. And if I have to get of my bum and go and kick a ball around on a freezing morning, well it will probably do me good.

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    It just annoyed me that she didn't come to a positive conclusion. There was no "and now my boy is here and he's amazing" or anything like that.

    Having a baby boy, I would be lying if I said I wouldn't prefer a baby girl next time. But I would feel the opposite way if I had a girl first. I think it's normal to feel that way. I won't be going to the extent of gender swaying or anything.

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    This lady has mental issues. She should have used a Condom if she couldn't cope with the possibility of having a child with a Penis.

    That poor bub, DD and hubby. What a crappy life ahead they will have with that woman.

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    See I actually just feel quite sorry for her. She's clearly dealing with underlying anxiety issues about the whole thing. When her baby is born she will most probably feel completely different but like a PP said she's dealing with the unknown and that is a scary thing. When the only comparisons she has are negative who can blame her for feeling apprehensive!
    Personally I am desperate for a boy. I come from a family with lots of girls and just one boy. I was always dying for a brother and when he finally came I was thrilled. Yes, if this baby is a girl of course I will love it and my feelings wouldn't be any different regardless of sex but I want a boy. It's one of the reasons I'm not finding out the gender before giving birth. I know after giving birth ill just be thrilled that I have a little baby regardless of gender but I am scared that if I was to find out in advance I might have some feelings of disappointment. Either way ill love my baby to bits but I do have a preference in my mind.

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    We have 3 girls and I have never experienced gender disappointment so I am not sure what it feels like. However, I think that if it was reversed and I didn't have a girl I would want one.

    I think her feelings are a little different though considering she already has a girl. It sounds to me like she just doesn't like boys.

    I feel sad for her baby and hope that for both of their sakes she seeks help to resolve her feelings.

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    Boys are awesome! My little guy is NOTHING like what this silly woman has described. She's very narrow minded IMO.

    I would love a girl next but if I got a boy I'd be stoked too.

    I think this lady has some deeper issues and to be honest I find her article a bit insulting.

    I do understand gender preference but at the end if the day it's nature. You get what life wants you to have. Suck it up and love your kids for who they are not for what gender they are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaDiDah View Post
    See I actually just feel quite sorry for her. She's clearly dealing with underlying anxiety issues about the whole thing. When her baby is born she will most probably feel completely different but like a PP said she's dealing with the unknown and that is a scary thing. When the only comparisons she has are negative who can blame her for feeling apprehensive!
    I agree. I was so upset when I found out we were having a boy and I still am, I still wish this baby was a girl. Doesn't mean I don't already love this baby!! I know he will be loved and spoilt.

    I'm sure my feelings of "wishing him a girl" will seem ridiculous when he is born but doesn't mean they aren't there atm and I also don't think it makes me a bad person.

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    I was very nervous when pregnant with DS ... I had a DD and knew what to do with girls (only had a sister myself and grew up with female cousins) and didn't really want a boy.

    Then he arrived ... he's my calm wedged between the volatile storms (his sisters). I always wanted four children and if you could have guaranteed me another little man like my DS I would have had that fourth, but what if we got another girl like DD2?

    As others have said ... she and her DH are afraid of the unknown and I hope their little man brings them even half the joy my little man has bought to our family.

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    She named her daughter 'Kitty' lol

    Enough said.

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    I couldn't read the whole article for some reason, just the introduction, but from what I read, I would probably have the same fears if DD had been a boy. That said, I have since learnt that a child is a child first and foremost, and their sex plays a very small role in who they are and how they behave (unless you push it on them).

    I'm sure this woman will realise over time, until then I don't see what's so wrong with her having and expressing her feelings about the matter.


 

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