When organising a baptism you need to have a meeting with the Parish secretary and Father (Priest) before you have a Baptismal ceremony and *most* like to have it during Mass, therefore although some churches may be a bit more liberal than others (in terms of having only one parent Catholic), I think you will find your husband will have a bit of difficulty when it comes time to organise and meet with a parish Father etc if you're not committed to having your child baptised in the Catholic faith.
At the very least it would be very awkward and obvious, especially when it came time to discussing the ins and outs of the baptism etc if one parent was not consenting so to speak.
It's a tough one, that's why I think it's so important for couples to discuss these types of things pre-marriage/pre relationship, pre kids, so this type of thing doesn't become an issue down the track and you both know where you stand.
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13-02-2013 15:26 #11
13-02-2013 15:28 #12
I am not hating on religion, I just don't know what words to use when talking about 'baptising a child into the faith'
In a sense, isn't it offering your child to that faith? Your bathing them in the faith? This is how I meant for it to be read, not as if your offering them as a sacrifice to some demon!
13-02-2013 15:30 #13
13-02-2013 15:31 #14
Unfortunately, the universe has stepped in and we are expecting now and we have to figure out how to make it work, now.
13-02-2013 15:33 #15
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13-02-2013 15:37 #16
Sorry, just for the record.
I am not married, we don't even live together yet. So this is all come about as a surprise but one we are now thrown in the deep end to get sorted out. He isn't home right now and it's on my mind so I'm asking Qs here so I understand it better when we do talk.
I have a son, 8yrs old, who is not of any faith. I have not introduced him to any and wont until he asks to be. His father is muslim.
I was raised Christian but I am not of the faith now.
Do I believe in god, sure, but not in the exact ways the different various churches say it is.
13-02-2013 15:40 #17
I will be asking him what his intentions are about baptism now, thanks Missie. After posting here, I have so many other topics to cover in a chat with him, so asking here was a good thing. My eyes are a bit more open.
13-02-2013 15:42 #18
It certainly makes it difficult when the universe has other plans and you haven't had time to discuss the big ticket items. It sounds as though (although your partner's family are Catholics), his sudden baptismal wishes have surprised you. If I were you, I would just be completely uprfront and honest and tell your partner exactly what you have said here and why it is important to you that your child together not be baptised etc. As I said earlier, it will be more diffcult for him to proceed without you on the same page and consenting etc.
13-02-2013 15:45 #19
OP, if you feel so strongly about it it's best to discuss it further with your partner. Or maybe do.what someone else said it here, say yes and never get around to do it. Though this might be an issue if your partner is of the proactive kind!
Maybe the argument that if his religion was that important to him, he would be attending church might work. Ask him to ask himself what is the real reason he wants your child to be baptized, it might help you as well.if he cant think of a reason.
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13-02-2013 15:45 #20
Yes, it has surprised me, as he has never shown a religious side to him so i did not think this would be such an important thing for him in future.
Lets see how the convo goes tonight then shall we, although Im sure it wont be a once off, resolved, kind of topic
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