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    Default 5yr old has to sleep with the lamp on - would you let her?

    My 5yr old daughter has increasingly over the last 6 months become afraid of the 'shadows' in her room at night and wants to sleep with the lamp on (she'd have the main light on if I'd let her!) There doesn't seem to be anything in particular she is afraid of (she hasn't mentioned monsters or anything) I think its more of shadows and the unknown. She has a beautiful room and already has 3 light sources (night light, bedside illuminated clock and iPod dock that plays relaxation music) in her room but lately she is quite upset if the lamp isn't on also. It's only a 14w globe but is still pretty bright. I've been leaving it on all night for her as I don't want her to be afraid as I remember being afraid of sleeping in the dark when I was young. But should I be insisting the lamp isn't for overnight and making her get used to the dim light (seriously even without the lamp her room is very viewable with all the nightlights etc!). I'm concerned she's going to go for sleepovers or we go away and she won't sleep unless it's bright in the room (which can be a problem if she's sharing with someone)
    She will happily walk from her bedroom to our bedroom at the other end of the house in complete darkness in the middle of the night if she needs to go to the toilet so it's not a fear of all darkness. She doesn't watch scary movies or anything - infact she is very anxious about any movies incase they have any remotely scary bits in hem!!

    Do others have kids who have to have the lamp on? Should I just let her and wait for her to grow out of the anxiety?

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    Is there a light in a hallway or nearby room that you can put on so it illuminates her room slightly without being too bright...and try and wean her off the light that way? I wouldnt be too concerned about sleepovers....most people should be fine to accomodate with a hallway light or something if necessary.

    My DS was not phased by the dark at all and then suddenly wanted a light source at night so we'd leave the hallway light on. He comes and goes with it...he prefers to have a light on somewhere nearby but isnt upset if its not on. Occasionally he will get out of bed and go turn on the hallway light then get back into bed...other times he wont bother.

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    My kids are 4 & 6 and both have a lamp on to fall asleep. DH or I turn them off once they are asleep. If they wake up during the night they are fine with walking thru the dark to our room.

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    Default 5yr old has to sleep with the lamp on - would you let her?

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    Her room is already illuminated heaps even without the lamp! I used to just leave it on while she went to sleep and turn it off when I go to bed (which I still do with her 3yo brother) but she would wake in the night and come to me upset because she wanted it on, hence why I started leaving it on. There is also a nightlight in a vanity/bathroom near her room and she has a little kids lantern she can turn on to walk around the house with yet she still walks to us in the dark and forgets her lantern!!. She likes her door to be shut.

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    My ds (just 6) still has a light on overnight, but it's on low (it's a touchlamp with 3 settings of brightness). We probably should wean him off it, but for now, it helps him sleep and that's fine in my book. As for sleepovers, the only sleepovers he has are at my parents house and he usually sleeps without a night light there quite happily! And seriously, it will be many years til she'll go on a sleepover ... I imagine she'll be a lot closer to 8!

    I say get a lower wattage globe and reduce the brightness. Really bright light promotes wakefulness, not sleep. All the best!

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    Default 5yr old has to sleep with the lamp on - would you let her?

    My 4.5 year old has just started being afraid of the dark. She is usually in bed when it is still light otherwise she begs me to leave the hall way light on which I do. If she wakes during the night then we turn her string lights on which really illuminate the room and she will happily go back to sleep.

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    Default 5yr old has to sleep with the lamp on - would you let her?

    DD1 is almost 4 and has had the hall light outside her room on all night for almost 2 years. We used to turn it off when we went to bed but she'd wake up in the middle of the night screaming.

    She has a lamp as well which is on until we go to bed. She asks us if she can have that on all night but we've been really firm with that and told her its only til she falls asleep.

    One night the hall light blew and she woke up in the dark and was terrified I'm not going to push her to sleep in complete darkness. I used to be scared of the dark as a kid, I had the hall light on until at least primary school age, now I happily sleep in complete darkness so I don't think it's detrimental.......as long as your DD is sleeping well I wouldn't worry too much. I would try to encourage it to be as dark as possible but I wouldn't turn it in to a big battle. The more relaxed and safe you can help her to feel at bed time, the better

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    Default 5yr old has to sleep with the lamp on - would you let her?

    Could it be all the light in her room causing the shadows?

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    Default 5yr old has to sleep with the lamp on - would you let her?

    My dd 10 still has to fall asleep with bedside lamp on, we turn it off when she's asleep, if she wakes in middle of night it goes in again. In saying this when she has friends over or visa versa no light is needed. She went in her first school camp last year I was worried bout the light thing but she was fine. We have discussed trying to get her to sleep with no light but its really not an issue. I guess we all have our night comforts, I can't fall asleep without the tv on.

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    Default 5yr old has to sleep with the lamp on - would you let her?

    I'd leave it on. This was me as a kid, my door had to be shut and I needed my lamp on. I was afraid of shadows too.

    I would have freaked out big time had I woken up an my light was off.

    Though as a child I got night terrors too which wouldn't use helped.

    Now I can not sleep with any form of light! Still always need to door closed too.

    I think it's most likely a phase and I wouldn't push her to get used to sleeping in the dark when she is already clearly scared.


 

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