I don't label my self, as a pp said I never heard about labels until joiining bh,
I dnt breastfeed due to my milk not coming in,
I can't baby wear due to being very small and my son is a big boy, I also fell pregnant when my son was 4 months old
I co slept with my son until he was 9 months old and his cot is now in my room
I have never been one for cc, ill pick my son up as soon as he cries and have always sang my son to sleep "
I have also never had anyone watch my son
And to me this is just being a mum to the best of my abbilities.
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28-01-2013 11:41 #41
Re: Parenting 'labels'
28-01-2013 12:01 #42
I am definitely a slacker mum, and identify with the free range parenting ideals too. I don't really fall into the AP category.....
28-01-2013 12:03 #43
Re: Parenting 'labels'
But if everyone around you is responsive and nobody is suggesting otherwise then it's good that the term AP seems totally redundant and stupid.
And actually I was briefly seeing a psychologist after katelyn was born who kept telling me I needed to do controlled crying and that I shouldn't be so quick to pick katelyn up when she fussed during sessions, she also told me I needed to do cc on my 4 year old because I mentioned he falls asleep in my arms every night and as soon as I said well actually I respond to my children SHE started going on about "people who do attachment parenting" like it was totally absurd to parent responsively.
So unfortunately........ To some people..... It's not really rubbish that it's a "thing", including people who think that the label simply identifies some parents as crazy hippies.
(I didn't go back to that psych by the way. I was so shocked she seemed to have genuine compassion for adult humans, just not for little ones)
28-01-2013 12:25 #44Senior Member
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Isnt that awful advice coming from a so called professional!! With my first son I remember going to this dr for his 6 month check up . She asked I he slept in his cot and I said no he sleeps with me. She was really shocked that at 6 months he had never slept in his cot and said I was doing wrong thing as babies need to learn to be alone. I ignored her because my instinct was so strong an i also had a strong instinct something was not quite right. Turns out my oldest has autism and has since day one( he did not regress like some) I'm so glad I kept him close , he was always with me and feeling safe. I wonder sometimes if I had taken her advice and others who told me to CiO how much worse he would be and how much further into his own world he would be. I think I parent on instinct like we all do , I'm stubborn and don't take advice unless it feels right. I do fall into the attachment parent bracket but just never thought about it. But your right boobycino it's good to know that it is a style of parenting and it's ok to follow when you have a GP or family telling you to do things you feel are not right for you or baby.
28-01-2013 12:35 #45
I just follow my instincts, and I go with the flow. I'll take advice but ultimately we do what ever works. DD is happy and a very easy baby... I like to think its because she's happy and I've met her needs.
Couldn't imagine any other way really.
28-01-2013 12:37 #46Senior Member
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well now I know the term CIO ...I did that (stiil do)..I also did CC....but I don't think I used those terms ever..I just would let my girl cry sometimes.."self settle" etc...
I BF for about 3 months then gave up ..way to hard (with my next maybe try for 6 months..no more then that)
I never wore my baby (I loved my pram to much)
I never co slept..well maybe a few times when she wouldnt settle..or when we fell asleep cuddling..
I also tried the method of SIS (screaming in shower ..when I was so tired and felt like a crazy zombie)
I also did this a lot LRTB...(leave room take breath)
28-01-2013 12:39 #47
I'd probably call myself a free-range parent.
I know a lot of people on here would be horrified by the things I let DD do
28-01-2013 12:46 #48
I have never labelled myself AP, but I think everyone would have some AP values with their own parenting.
I think like witwicky said, some people are too competitive about it, especially some people on here. I've never encountered it in real life, but I don't join AP groups or know anyone who is a parent who uses the AP label.
28-01-2013 13:06 #49Senior Member
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- Mar 2010
So what's a free range parent? I might be that also .... Both my boys are outside pecking at dirt most days ha ha !
28-01-2013 13:17 #50
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