I guess you just don't want your husband to end up resenting you down the track. It sounds like you have a lot of things planned for your future I.e. a new house, holiday home and I imagine it would be hard to do all those things on a sole income.
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13-01-2013 10:54 #31
Work and sahm
13-01-2013 11:01 #32-
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At the moment I do everything, I always have, I get up at 6am to make his lunch, I clean up after him, he has dinner on the table, food in the fridge, his clothes cleaned, a spotless house, he literally doesn't even take the bins out. I do everything!! And I like it (and so does he) He won't help when I go back to work, I know because I've worked full time and still had to do it all, this time I'll be doing it with kids aswell.
Everyone says he'll resent me, i haven't pushed the subject yet, but if I seriously don't want to go back he'll support it. Will he resent me? Well why are his feeling s more important, or the fact he makes a wage more important than all the things I do?
How about this, I'll resent him for making me go back to work, me being stressed, anxious, unhappy, fighting constantly when he doesn't pull his weight, my kids being in after school care, not having dinner ready, them seeing us both unhappy. I really don't see how that's any better?
13-01-2013 11:10 #33
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13-01-2013 11:11 #34
I totally hear you OP! I would love to never work again! It just doesn't interest me much anymore, I want to be available to my children before and after school (if I went back to work they would have to go to before school care from 6.30am), just as my mum was, and also contribute to their school life as a volunteer - someone has to man the canteen, help with before school reading, excursions etc. I feel sad for the kids who can never have a parent help, go to assemblies or excursions.
My DH and I both came from families with a SAHM, my DH's mum never worked after having kids and my mum started working PT when we were teens. It was great, and I would love to do the same for my children.
Of course it comes down to finances, and whether you and your DH are on the same page for child-rearing. Financially, we would (of course) be better off if I worked, but it also puts more pressure on my family/DH if I work - there is a lot more child juggling between us and we have no outside family support, not to mention the cost of putting 3 children in day-care/before/after achool care. We both work in shif-working industries, which makes it more difficult.
Anyway, what I am getting at, is that I do not think it is selfish or lazy, IF it works for your family and everyone is happy.
13-01-2013 11:12 #35
13-01-2013 11:14 #36
Work and sahm
I'm just putting another point across that I have seen first hand resentment
13-01-2013 11:16 #37Feel my wrath!
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I work because I hate being 100% reliant on someone else. I only work 2 days a week though.
If my DH gets sick or injured, I can walk back into a FT career if I need too, as I am maintaining my skills. Or, if DH and I split for some reason, I'd be able to support myself and my children.
And when our kids are grown and move onto exotic lifestyles, travelling the world we'll be able to retire and stalk them
That said, if I can get away with it, I'll never work full time again
ETA: DH would be happy for me to be a full time SAHM, he says to do whatever makes me happy Actually, if was trying to get me to go back to work, i'd probably be more likely to want to stay home!
13-01-2013 11:16 #38
13-01-2013 11:20 #39
Work and sahm
I dream of figuring out a way to transition to wahm during mate leave so I don't have to go back!
13-01-2013 11:22 #40
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