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    Last week I had two seizures in a row I'm 23 weeks pregnant. I'm extremely concerned because I'm home alone from 5am-3pm 6days a week. (I have epilepsy I should add... and have small seizures nearly daily!)

    We can either buy a house near my parents and my mum (she doesn't work) just a carer for my brother with DS, potters around doing things with him/for him activities etc can help me as much as I would like etc (she has mentioned this to my grandma how concerned she is to my Grandma) in case I drop my baby etc which we are too. I catch public transport with no fuss etc but it would be nice to be much closer to my mum etc for support instead of 45-1hr away. And I guess most people are more comfortable with there own parents We have are own issues, argue etc.. She is messy etc.. Correction a hoarder and needs to sort some problems out but I really do want my own mum LOL.

    Or continue living with my MIL who is insanely driving me nuts because SIL lives here too and always gets her way. For example she gave our unborn bubba a diamond ring then SIL goes "oh i like that" so she gave it to her instead! And said "she can wear it until it fits the baby". IMO that is just so wrong. DP and SIL don't get on, it stresses me out because I always end up in the middle by saying "dont speak to her like that" or they try and make him sound bad when I know she was in the wrong but I don't have the guts to say anything because I live here and don't want to step on anyones toes... WRONG i know.

    The thing is the houses we are looking at here are $250k instead of $370-$400k. SO much more affordable. I'm trying to convince dp that it is an investment kind of? even in a failing property market or am I being wrong . Please tell me i'm being wrong/right. Just any advice would be great.

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    No matter what I would want to be close to my mum

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    I would choose Mum...

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    Yep this is how I felt! I just don't have that relationship with his mum or sister. Thanks ladies I just didnt want to seem selfish to my dp he's very understanding though for me and baby

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    I'd want to be closer to Mum without a doubt.

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    How to I tackle bringing this to DP? I don't want this to be all about me. He said he is thinking about it. But I really don't want to live an hour away from my mum to the point of I would rather live apart. The more time I am spending with my sil & mil it's really irritating me/upsetting me.

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    I think it should be about you and how you feel - if being closer to your mum will help you through what seems to be a stressful time and situation then your partner should understand. Your pregnant - no better time for things to be about you! 😃

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    Look at it as marriage insurance. Happy wife, happy life they say....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Missbean View Post
    Look at it as marriage insurance. Happy wife, happy life they say....
    Lmao!! Too true... Maybe that's why I'm so cranky here

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    I would go insane if I had to live with my ILs, you are doing AWESOME if you are merely cranky. It isn't reasonable for your partner to expect that you can live with your ILs without having relationship issues, that is the exception, rather than the norm. It's too hard to set appropriate boundaries when you are living in their house.

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