Its really really good that you are surrounded by people that support you And it sounds like you have lots of plans in place for accommodation, uni etc. To be completely honest, I am really surprised to learn that you are in your early 20's. You always come across here as very level-headed and mature
Don't let your brother confuse you. He is coming at it from the other side, where he has completed his studies and is ready to start his career, so its kind of natural he would have this viewpoint. Do you have someone you trust, who you can talk these doubts over with? There is no harm in considering the negative side, its best to go into it fully informed & with your eyes open. But ultimately only you can decide what is right for you.
Oh and re your comments about the party lifestyle, being irresponsible etc... I partied all through my late teens & twenties, was completely irresponsible, didn't look after my diet or health etc. And I totally regret it now. It was a complete waste of time, resources and brain cells. Just thought I would give that viewpoint
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22-01-2013 10:23 #21
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22-01-2013 11:13 #22
I did a lot of thinking after the initial replies on here, spoke to a counselor, my supportive family and my close friends, even fob. My support has dwindled a little as my mums boyfriend convinced two more of my siblings that I should terminate and they should convince me to *rolls eyes* though my mum seems to be excited so perhaps all is not lost on that side, she was the same age as me when she started her family so maybe she just knows what it was like too, not sure there. Fob has decided to meet the baby and put in to buy some of the nursery items which is a pretty big flip, I think his new lady might have something to do with that. My ex before fob is my dp again now and super supportive, though he'd prefer this didn't happen in the first place (well der, it wouldn't be a predicament if it didn't happen lol).
In another thread I made about living in a share house, there were a lot of great comments on how to deal with baby and uni, as well as housemates and thanks to all the supportive ladies over there I came to a good agreement with my housemates about having baby in this house still which makes it a little less daunting (although does have some different obstacles).
Overall I think I'm pretty happy that I'm going ahead with this and with how supportive everyone on here, and the majority of people in my life have been. I think if I didn't have you ladies I might've let them convince me to terminate. Now whenever they bring it up (step bro came up a few weeks ago and pretty much told me I'm being an immature idiot and have no idea what I'm doing, well gee thanks) I stand my ground. It led to a big fight with my sister and my step bro got very upset when I refused to talk to him about it again but they need to let me be sheesh.
Thank you all again ^____^
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22-01-2013 11:19 #23
So glad you have come to a decision you are happy with, congrats!
22-01-2013 11:38 #24
Re: So Confused
I'm glad you're happy with YOUR (no one else's) decision.
You come across as very capable so I'm sure you will manage bub and uni fine.
I had my first at 20 with plenty of 'you'd be better off if...' comments. I now have two sons, who will be 7 and 4 this year
I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly
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22-01-2013 13:20 #25
Re: So Confused
I'm glad you've come to a decision you are happy with though, it's so hard when everyone has their opinions but at the end of the day you have to listen to your own heart, and live with your own choices. They will all melt with love when they meet your LO
22-01-2013 13:43 #26-
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hope it's okay if I join, I need advice!
Hmm a bit worried, been waiting all day for a call to hear about the results of my blood test yesterday. called up the doctor and they made me an appointment for tomorrow to talk to my GP. is this a good or bad sign? I'm approximately 8 weeks. and yesterday was my first app.
geez way to make a girl stress I'm so worried!
22-01-2013 15:22 #27
22-01-2013 15:39 #28
Re: So Confused
Whatever decisuon you make be sure it's what YOU have decided and not what people have decided for you.
I was just shy of 18 when I fell pg to DS1. I certainly wasn't ready, I had no career, no travel time, no support (apart from my mother) But I decided I wanted to keep my baby and make the best of a hard situation. He is now turning 6 on Aus day and I couldn't imagine life without my colourful DS1
Im now a few months shy of 25 and have 3 children It is tough sometimes but I think if you want this, the love you have for your child is all the maturity you need as you will be willing to learn and adjust along the way!
Pm me anytime xx
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22-01-2013 17:41 #29
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