relationship issues - 30 weeks preg

[abs2013]

I agree, it makes you feel worthless and not attractive enough anymore.and now he hides it bacause he know how it makes me feel!!!!! Not stop!! He also said i shouldnt look for things i dont want to find or be hurt when i find it but i disagree i have nothing to hide on my phone or in a case

[faroutbrusselsprout]

I agree, it makes you feel worthless and not attractive enough anymore.and now he hides it bacause he know how it makes me feel!!!!! Not stop!! He also said i shouldnt look for things i dont want to find or be hurt when i find it but i disagree i have nothing to hide on my phone or in a case

What a cop out.
So now he's lying and then turning it around to try and make it look as though you're the one doing the wrong thing?!?
He's completely disregarding your feelings.

[Alicia92]

This is just completely and utterly untrue.
What a load of rubbish.
I can't believe all the excuses in this thread "they're just men" "cut them some slack"!!!
My good god.

OP if you're uncomfortable with your partner watching p o r n then you need to have a very serious discussion with him.
You have every right to not want your husband looking at other woman naked/performing sexual acts.
Your feelings of your own self worth should come before his visual aids for jerking off.

{not necessary}

I'm yet to meet a guy who doesn't like porn!!
If they want to watch p o r n then let them! I'd rather my partner watch p o r n then go sleep with someone else because I'm not giving him any! They have every right to pleasure themselves. Unless it's very disgusting p o r n, let them be!
I know it can feel crappy but it's their choice!
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[peanutmonkey]

This is just completely and utterly untrue.
What a load of rubbish.
I can't believe all the excuses in this thread "they're just men" "cut them some slack"!!!
My good god.

OP if you're uncomfortable with your partner watching p o r n then you need to have a very serious discussion with him.
You have every right to not want your husband looking at other woman naked/performing sexual acts.
Your feelings of your own self worth should come before his visual aids for jerking off.

Agreed!

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[FirstTimeMummy2012]

Ok all I'm going to say is that I have a brother who has LOADS of friends. I work in a full male environment as in I am the only female here. I have always worked in male dominated environments since I was 16 so we're talking 17 years of being surrounded by males. My DH is male (obviously) and so are all of his friends. Not one of these men that I have encountered in the last 17 years has ever said "I don't like p o r n". Sorry but I truly believe that if a man says he doesn't like p o r n .. he secretly does. Just saying so no attacking thank you. It's purely MY opinion with MY life experiences in the last 17 years.

Actally I lie .. my DH said he didn't watch p o r n in the beginning of our relationship until I opened his browser on his phone one day and found countless p o r n videos he had visited. I told him that I don't want him watching it but then I think now who was I to stop him? Like seriously, if he wants to watch a little something on his own and jerk off then who am I to tell him what to do or not do with his p*nis?

Now that I'm pregnant, I hope he's been watching p o r n and jerking off because otherwise his bits would have exploded by now! I've given him nothing because I've been so sick and tired and the poor guy needs some sort of release! He has never made me feel anything but beautiful and sexy so what's the big deal if he watches some p o r n here and there?

OP I can understand you are feeling hurt and I'm sorry you're feeling that way but please don't see it as your husband doesn't love you or feels less for you. I just think that a very large majority of men (yes I'm generalising) like to look at p o r n. Trying to stop them is like putting a bowl of candy in front of a child and saying, "Don't touch!" I'm sure he's still crazy about you!

[Sookie Stackedhouse]

I think if your partner respected you he would stop. They don't have to watch it. It is a choice.

Maybe get your partner to take some nice (doesn't have to be dirty) photos of you.
Then he can use them as visual aids.
There are option. My DH would be out on his bum if I caught him watching filth like that.

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[FirstTimeMummy2012]

I think if your partner respected you he would stop. They don't have to watch it. It is a choice.

Maybe get your partner to take some nice (doesn't have to be dirty) photos of you.
Then he can use them as visual aids.
There are option. My DH would be out on his bum if I caught him watching filth like that.

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Sorry but I don't believe that statement. My DH respects me very much but has stated his case about p o r n. He's a very visual man and loves to see the female body. He begs me to show more of myself to him but I'm not confident with my body so I feel it's unfair to completely deprive him. Granted if he watched absolute filth I wouldn't be happy but I've seen what he watches and it's just not a big deal .. to me that is.

[NancyBlackett]

And I guess that's the point isn't it? It's ok to YOU.

It's not ok for the OP so her husband needs to respect that. Now who knows what ultimate solution they may come to, but how it makes her feel has to a big part of how they resolve this.

[Alicia92]

Thank you firsttimemummy! My point exactly. I have not met a guy who doesn't like p o r n. Thank you... finally someone who agrees with me!!

Don't take it personally. Doesn't mean he loves you anyless if he watches it.
Let them be :-)

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[FirstTimeMummy2012]

And I guess that's the point isn't it? It's ok to YOU.

It's not ok for the OP so her husband needs to respect that. Now who knows what ultimate solution they may come to, but how it makes her feel has to a big part of how they resolve this.

Yes thank you for pointing that out but I never stated it was ok for the OP. I guess what I was trying to share with the OP is that once upon a time I was very NOT ok with it and we almost split up because of him watching porn. As we discussed it and he explained his case it changed how I felt about it too. Maybe the same could happen for the OP. I just think it's a really silly thing to end a relationship over unless they were obsessed with watching it.