I'm watching the today show and they interviewed a man that was a sperm donor pre 1988. He is asking that the laws be changed so that donors have the right to meet the children that they helped create. I haven't been on either side, but I would think that when someone chooses to donate, they are going into it knowing their rights and responsibilities end when they donate and that it's not fair for this man to now pipe up and want something to with these now adults.
What does everyone else think?
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10-12-2012 07:20 #1
10-12-2012 08:05 #2
I have a friend going through a donor sperm agency atm.
I think the fathers should be able to put through a request to meet with their offspring, but I think the meeting should be mutual, and the offspring has the right to deny this meeting. I think it should also be the same the other way around- the children should be able to put through a request to meet their donors but the donor has the right to deny this request.
10-12-2012 09:12 #3
I saw it too OP and it made me uncomfortable - especially how he kept referring to the children as 'my children'. He chose to donate and agreed not to contact the children.
10-12-2012 09:50 #4
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Perhaps just having an option available where the donor can say when they donate that they are either happy to be contacted in the future, or dont want to be. And then the decision can be made by the resulting child when they come of a certain age?
It seems a bit cheeky to choose to donate your sperm, knowingly forego parental rights and responsibilities, contribute nothing financially or emotionally and then come in later to try and have a relationship with the child or adult.
10-12-2012 11:40 #7
On the other hand, many doner fathers do not want to be contacted, and (I believe) new legislation says that a child can access information of their biological parent. I think this has put a lot of men off donating sperm. My hubby really wanted to donate sperm to assist people to have a family, but didn't as he didnt want the complication of possibly being contacted in later life, he didn't want to know what, if anything, had been done with his donation IYKWIM.
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10-12-2012 11:58 #8Senior Member
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I think its fair in a way because the kids will probably be curious and want to know about their biological parent at some point, the same as a kid who is adopted, but I can see the other side as well. It puts men off donating and makes it harder for parents who can't conceive without donor sperm.
In regards to the OP, I think this man is being very unreasonable. He knew what he was doing and he has no right to suddenly decide he wants to be a parent to these people. They are not 'his children' as far as I'm concerned. Donating sperm does not make you a parent.
Meetings should be able to be arranged where both parties want it, but this man has no right to be given contact information for people who don't even know who he is.
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