I have started to comment of late as he has gained about 15 kgs over the last few months, he is constantly complaining about back ache and being too fat. Most of his weight seems to be in his mid section which explains the back ache. He also smokes cigarettes so I've been on his case alot about being healthier lately. Nothing scares me more then the thought of my kids not having their dad around especially when I have another one on the way!!!
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07-12-2012 09:36 #51
Do you comment in what your partner eats?
07-12-2012 09:36 #52
No we don't comment on what we eat, we are both adults and realise ourselves that we need to loose weight if needed. I have lost 13kgs since dd2 birth I did it for me so I could fit back into my pre-preg clothes. If he told me I was fat I would of been so depressed. When I was preg with dd1 DH stacked on the weight, his friends teased him but once she was born it melted off, I didn't have to say anything.
But if your DH bought the chips he can't complain that you get them! What are you meant to do.. Eat your celery and tidy up his crumbs... I don't think so!
07-12-2012 09:59 #53
I sure do. He eats too much, he eats sh!t and he doesn't do any exercise.
I will usually only have a go at him after I have made some healthy snacks or something for him to take to work and all he does is whinge and complain about them, or if I have tried something new for dinner cause it's healthy and tasty and all he does is complain about it. I'll try and come up with healthier versions of things, so rather than having say schnitzel and chips one night I made up home-made schnitzel and salad wraps with heaps of salad. He really enjoyed it but the next time insisted on make his own which had morphed into schnitzel, cheese and bacon wraps with a couple of bits of tomato.
I don't want him to not be able to run around and play with his kids.Unfortunately it's the way he was raised with food and after 35 years it's not going to be an easy habit to crack.
07-12-2012 12:32 #54
Do you comment in what your partner eats?
Thanks for all the replies. I suppose it's not so much the comments it was the way it was made. He was giving me dirty looks then when I was about to pack it away he told me what was the point that I may as well finish it off as I had so much already blah blah blah! For me this is counterproductive and just makes me feel bad about myself and want to eat more junk.
07-12-2012 13:27 #55
No, were both extremely sensitive about food and weight. Before this pregnancy a commen was made to me about food and my weight, I stupidly wen about 4 days having only water. Dh is horrible with food though! Last weekend he ought a block of chocolat "for me" . I got 3 squares and he ate the rest. Same with any treat food brought into the house, I get maybe 1 , and if it's still sitting there n a day or two, I apparently means he can eat the entire lot. I do get worried about his weight sometimes though. After this bub I'll be joining th gym and he will b coming with me.
07-12-2012 14:28 #56Senior Member
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Sometimes..He is in his 40s a bit overweight so from time to time I gently remind him of his food choices...
07-12-2012 15:00 #57
As someone who is overweight I'd be p...Ed if my partner mentioned anything. I already know I'm big, I already know what's good and bad food. Nagging doesn't help.
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07-12-2012 20:39 #59
I do, but not that way. He can destroy his body with crappy food if he likes. It's not something I think he should do, but I'm not his mother. It's not my job to tell him what he can consume and what he can't.
I still whinge at him because he's so damn fussy though. Given I'm the one who deals with meals, it makes me angry and every now and then I have a little tantrum about it.
ETA - I think my partner once suggested if I was unhappy with my weight, I could perhaps consider eating differntly. He said it very politely, but it made me cry and go binge even more. lol. It's definitely not a wise thing to say.
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